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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 260514" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>If he is different there is no point in pretending he is not. Just help him come to terms with it. Different does not mean bad. It actually is a wonderful thing to be different. Many highly intelligent people are 'different' and many of them never attend college. Yet they are still more intelligent than others that do. </p><p> </p><p>My mother used to tell me my difficult child 'marched to the beat of a different drummer'. I hated it at the time, but it was so true. I was trying to conform her into what I wanted her to be - because I knew it was best for her. Safer. More normal. She even said to me once, 'quit trying to make me into something I am not'. Now that set me back on my heals. She was happy with who she was - it was all me. </p><p> </p><p>So, I started to accept that she would be different. She recently told me she was not going to go to Senior Ball. She would never discuss this with me. Just tell me like it is. I think she was afraid to disappoint me. I told her that it is not for everyone and just to be sure she would never regret it. Now the fact that I did not try to convince her to be like everyone else is what saved our relationship. </p><p> </p><p>It is hard still.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 260514, member: 391"] If he is different there is no point in pretending he is not. Just help him come to terms with it. Different does not mean bad. It actually is a wonderful thing to be different. Many highly intelligent people are 'different' and many of them never attend college. Yet they are still more intelligent than others that do. My mother used to tell me my difficult child 'marched to the beat of a different drummer'. I hated it at the time, but it was so true. I was trying to conform her into what I wanted her to be - because I knew it was best for her. Safer. More normal. She even said to me once, 'quit trying to make me into something I am not'. Now that set me back on my heals. She was happy with who she was - it was all me. So, I started to accept that she would be different. She recently told me she was not going to go to Senior Ball. She would never discuss this with me. Just tell me like it is. I think she was afraid to disappoint me. I told her that it is not for everyone and just to be sure she would never regret it. Now the fact that I did not try to convince her to be like everyone else is what saved our relationship. It is hard still. [/QUOTE]
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