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<blockquote data-quote="KYDad" data-source="post: 279900" data-attributes="member: 7548"><p>Ok mstang...have you been looking me up or googling me? kidding.</p><p> </p><p>This is precisely what I said and did with the grandparents. About 2 years ago, I limited their time with him. I explained and explained what I wanted, why, and the reasoning. All they did was circumvent it, or try to get me to back down. "Is it really all that important that he not sleep in the same bed with his Grandmother?" or the classic line used by all of them at one time or another "What's it hurting?" huh????</p><p> </p><p>I finally did tell them to keep their distance for a while, so I could get him into counseling and attempt to get a hold on his behavior as they were enabling it. A month later they sued for Grandparents rights. "You forced us to do it." right.</p><p> </p><p>They now get 3 hrs. every other weekend, not in their home and not around the cousins. The day of court I offered them 6 hours everyother weekend with no stipulations. They rejected it because as I later found out..."it wasn't enough time." Now they want me to just forget the whole court case and put that behind us. Sure they do, it didn't work out for them trying to bully me and get a court to do it for them.</p><p> </p><p>Trust me, I tried and tried to talk to them to get them on board. They just refused to hear any of it. "He's as good as gold when he's over here?!" Of course he is, he is getting exactly what he wants, when he wants it, and how he wants it. It's like the lunatics running the Asylum.</p><p> </p><p>But I digress...this is one topic that gets me started and in a hurry.</p><p> </p><p>For the record, I don't display any of this to or in front of my son. Unlike them, I don't want to bias him against his grandparents.</p><p> </p><p>They are not the source of the problems with my son, but they certainly didn't do anything to avoid it either.</p><p> </p><p>Also, I read a few times where it was stated that my late wife "instinctively" knew my son, and how to handle him. Not to argue but...she complained repeatedly about his behavior and why he did the things he did. She didn't understand it either. She also didn't like her parents going against our wishes on what we wanted done with our son. Or her sister coming over to our house to swim with her brats, trashing the house, and then leaving it to the cabana boy (AKA me) to clean up when he got home from work. Did I mention they all did this while she was dead tired from the Chemo??</p><p> </p><p>Can you say enablers??? I can. Good...I knew you could.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KYDad, post: 279900, member: 7548"] Ok mstang...have you been looking me up or googling me? kidding. This is precisely what I said and did with the grandparents. About 2 years ago, I limited their time with him. I explained and explained what I wanted, why, and the reasoning. All they did was circumvent it, or try to get me to back down. "Is it really all that important that he not sleep in the same bed with his Grandmother?" or the classic line used by all of them at one time or another "What's it hurting?" huh???? I finally did tell them to keep their distance for a while, so I could get him into counseling and attempt to get a hold on his behavior as they were enabling it. A month later they sued for Grandparents rights. "You forced us to do it." right. They now get 3 hrs. every other weekend, not in their home and not around the cousins. The day of court I offered them 6 hours everyother weekend with no stipulations. They rejected it because as I later found out..."it wasn't enough time." Now they want me to just forget the whole court case and put that behind us. Sure they do, it didn't work out for them trying to bully me and get a court to do it for them. Trust me, I tried and tried to talk to them to get them on board. They just refused to hear any of it. "He's as good as gold when he's over here?!" Of course he is, he is getting exactly what he wants, when he wants it, and how he wants it. It's like the lunatics running the Asylum. But I digress...this is one topic that gets me started and in a hurry. For the record, I don't display any of this to or in front of my son. Unlike them, I don't want to bias him against his grandparents. They are not the source of the problems with my son, but they certainly didn't do anything to avoid it either. Also, I read a few times where it was stated that my late wife "instinctively" knew my son, and how to handle him. Not to argue but...she complained repeatedly about his behavior and why he did the things he did. She didn't understand it either. She also didn't like her parents going against our wishes on what we wanted done with our son. Or her sister coming over to our house to swim with her brats, trashing the house, and then leaving it to the cabana boy (AKA me) to clean up when he got home from work. Did I mention they all did this while she was dead tired from the Chemo?? Can you say enablers??? I can. Good...I knew you could.:happy: [/QUOTE]
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