A
accmama
Guest
I'm new here and really feeling weary right now. My oldest daughter is 19 and has had behavior problems her entire life. To get away from bad influences here, we moved her out of state about one year ago to live with my mom. Things were going well, but she was being careless, not keeping her room clean, not following house rules, etc. Finally she got into a fight with her boyfriend in the street in front of my mom's house and my mom decided she had enough and asked her to leave.
The plan was for us to buy her a one way ticket to fly back home and then deal with getting the rest of her things later. That would have been super easy, but of course with her nothing is easy.
She decided she must drive herself the 11 hours to get her because she didn't want to leave her car.
Of course, she is so impulsive she spends her money as fast as she earns it so she has no money for gas. We gave her gas money and a gps and sent her on her way.
Only she decided at the last minute she's staying there. And using the money we gave her to drive here as spending money until she gets paid next week.
Meanwhile her car has been wrecked, and will need to be repaired and it is old anyway....
there is just no way for her to survive right now without living with a family member and we have a very small family. Her only option is to come here or be homeless or stay with a friend.
I am so sick about this I might throw up.
I'm worried she'll go to my mom's house and try to beg her to let her stay there. Mom has been instructed to not let herself be manipulated, but to instead call the police for help.
I'm also worried something will happen and she'll call us asking for money in a week.
This child has been in juvenile detention, rehab, group home....we've been dealing with major stress for about 10 years now. I thought she was on the road to a better life, but I guess I was wrong.
We just do not know what to do other than to send her off to make her own way.
I have small children here, so even if she does decide to come back here we will have to kick her out if she causes drama here.
I just do not understand why it is so hard to just do the right thing. If she could just make normal choices, even bad choices would be fine if they were normal for her age, but everything she does is so over the top and dramatic and outrageous.
The plan was for us to buy her a one way ticket to fly back home and then deal with getting the rest of her things later. That would have been super easy, but of course with her nothing is easy.
She decided she must drive herself the 11 hours to get her because she didn't want to leave her car.
Of course, she is so impulsive she spends her money as fast as she earns it so she has no money for gas. We gave her gas money and a gps and sent her on her way.
Only she decided at the last minute she's staying there. And using the money we gave her to drive here as spending money until she gets paid next week.
Meanwhile her car has been wrecked, and will need to be repaired and it is old anyway....
there is just no way for her to survive right now without living with a family member and we have a very small family. Her only option is to come here or be homeless or stay with a friend.
I am so sick about this I might throw up.
I'm worried she'll go to my mom's house and try to beg her to let her stay there. Mom has been instructed to not let herself be manipulated, but to instead call the police for help.
I'm also worried something will happen and she'll call us asking for money in a week.
This child has been in juvenile detention, rehab, group home....we've been dealing with major stress for about 10 years now. I thought she was on the road to a better life, but I guess I was wrong.
We just do not know what to do other than to send her off to make her own way.
I have small children here, so even if she does decide to come back here we will have to kick her out if she causes drama here.
I just do not understand why it is so hard to just do the right thing. If she could just make normal choices, even bad choices would be fine if they were normal for her age, but everything she does is so over the top and dramatic and outrageous.