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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 633498" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Lifehappens, my difficult child was like yours, too. It was a long, long journey, and continues to be. But today my son picked up his uniform from McDonald's, where he got his first job on his very own. He is 17 and just got his license this summer, as well. It's been two weeks and no crashes or dents, either on my car or my body. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I still take it one day at a time. Sometimes, I'm granted two days at a time.</p><p>There is hope.</p><p></p><p>by the way, when you say he gets up the next day and does the same thing, could you have a little chat with him about whatever it is (hitting the dog, breaking things) and then pause him the instant he starts (I'm talking 7 a.m.) and tell him, "Up to your room. We'll start over again tomorrow." See what happens. </p><p>Of course, the problem with that is, you're punishing yourself, too, because you have to stay home and monitor him. been there done that.</p><p>If his motor is running all the time, it is very hard for him NOT to do what he did the day before. I hate to say it, but that's where medications come in handy. I wish we'd done medications earlier, but there was no way. My husband is a chiropractor and was dead set against it. It took years.</p><p></p><p>Another thing is, explain things before you do them, and act them out. For example, "We're going to the store in a little while. That means I need to buy milk--" and show him a carton of milk--"and cereal" and shake a half empty box of cereal. Maybe he doesn't "get it," even though he understands the words. He can't transition to physically stop what he's doing to get in the car and face the fluorescent lights and the clack of the grocery cart wheels. So he has to work up to it. If he says he doesn't want to go, you can offer his fave toy to come in the car or something. And heck, maybe he needs sunglasses for the lights and earmuffs for the noise. Think outside the box.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 633498, member: 3419"] Lifehappens, my difficult child was like yours, too. It was a long, long journey, and continues to be. But today my son picked up his uniform from McDonald's, where he got his first job on his very own. He is 17 and just got his license this summer, as well. It's been two weeks and no crashes or dents, either on my car or my body. :) I still take it one day at a time. Sometimes, I'm granted two days at a time. There is hope. by the way, when you say he gets up the next day and does the same thing, could you have a little chat with him about whatever it is (hitting the dog, breaking things) and then pause him the instant he starts (I'm talking 7 a.m.) and tell him, "Up to your room. We'll start over again tomorrow." See what happens. Of course, the problem with that is, you're punishing yourself, too, because you have to stay home and monitor him. been there done that. If his motor is running all the time, it is very hard for him NOT to do what he did the day before. I hate to say it, but that's where medications come in handy. I wish we'd done medications earlier, but there was no way. My husband is a chiropractor and was dead set against it. It took years. Another thing is, explain things before you do them, and act them out. For example, "We're going to the store in a little while. That means I need to buy milk--" and show him a carton of milk--"and cereal" and shake a half empty box of cereal. Maybe he doesn't "get it," even though he understands the words. He can't transition to physically stop what he's doing to get in the car and face the fluorescent lights and the clack of the grocery cart wheels. So he has to work up to it. If he says he doesn't want to go, you can offer his fave toy to come in the car or something. And heck, maybe he needs sunglasses for the lights and earmuffs for the noise. Think outside the box. [/QUOTE]
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