Hi everyone! I am very new to this forum...this is my first post!!! My 9 y/o stepdaughter was recently diagnosis with ADHD & ODD. Looking back, there have been signs for years, but it wasn't until she tried to push her half-sister down the stairs that her mother began to take notice. She is constantly challenging her mother's authority, and any other adult except my husband. We live over 1000 miles away (moving within 30 miles of her in July) and my husband does the best he can. A stern tone from him causes her to tear up. Her therapist seems to think that him being so far away from her is compounding her other issues (I agree, it's why we decided to move). His son, our easy child, is afraid of his sister because he thinks she will do something to him to hurt him. Her behavior has always been iffy toward her mother, but her recent escalations (jumping out of her window, wetting herself, etc) have caused us to rush our move. We were planning on moving out there next December, before we found out her diagnosis. We aren't forced to deal with her on a daily basis, and I know that the sweet child that she portrays to us really IS her, but I also know that we will see the other side of her soon after we move. I thought that, by joining the forum now, I could get a jump start on some of the issues we face so that we may be better prepared when we move. I have some experience with ADHD and ODD, because my brother had both. However, at the time there was no name for ODD. My experience makes me more compassionate to our difficult child, and understanding of our easy child's plight, as I used to be there. However, I don't know NEARLY enough to prepare for what we are facing. Any advice is more than welcome.