First, I want to say THANK SWEET JESUS I found this group.... Second, I am the mother of two of the most adorable and sweet little boys. However, my 4 year old is really starting to concern me. My oldest son was born premature at 34 weeks gestation. From the time he was born, we have been seeing specialists and trying to stay one step ahead of any delays that could develop from premature birth. He was delayed in walking, talking, and even cutting teeth. He is 4 yrs. and 2 months. He has been involved with the local early intervention (EI) since he was 15 months old, EI sent a therapist to our home once a week to work with him. When he turned 3, he started a pre-school class that is geared toward developmental delays and children with disorders. He still attends the class 4 days a week. There has been some improvement in his speech and cognitive development. However, on a daily basis the defiance gets worse and worse. I feel like he doesnt do anything he doesnt want to with out being bribed or forced. He constantly tells me "no", attacks his little brother, he is very sneaky, still does not sleep through the night, will not pee on the potty, makes little to no eye contact, still walks on his tip toes, has an obsession with anything that spins, repeats himself constantly, and always asks "Mommy are you happy?" My son is tiny and very very cute, he knows how to charm and has made up elborate stories for attention, for example, he "pretended" to be hurt a whole weekend without slipping up once so that I would carry him.... I have an appointment with his pediatrician next month and want to know what I have to say to her to get the answers I so desperately need! I also am open to any and all suggestions on how to deal... I am exhausted, but still so in love with this little boy!