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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 357763" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I would not step foot into the Manifestation Hearing or this positive behavior thingy with-o an advocate and/or attorney. I have a feeling they are planning to try to push you into something that they cannot really do with the Manifestation Hearing, hence the other thingy. They may even try to pull the old "report to children's services" if you don't agree with whatever BS they want. </p><p></p><p>I really think that a doctor who will give you a diagnosis would help. It would give some idea of what interventions and medications might work. If they say he is bipolar you would stay away from stimulants and antidepressants and try mood stabilizers and antipsychotics first, for example. This "no diagnosis" bull leaves you clueless, in my opinion. </p><p></p><p>Regardless of what the doctor does, get an advocate or attorney to go with you to this meeting. Even if the advocate is just a friend or family member, do NOT go alone. If you DO have to go alone, get a copy of Wrightslaw and maybe The Bipolar Child (if you think it is BiPolar (BP)) or a book about Aspergers or whatever you think it is. Go through and put post-it notes on certain pages. Of course those about Manifestation Hearings, but also about FAPE in LRE (Free and Appropriate Public Education in Least Restrictive Environment), and whatever else catches your fancy. </p><p></p><p>Make SURE they see you put the books on the table. It is a ploy meant to help them realize you know your rights. I often could not get an advocate or even a family member or friend to attend the IEP meetings with me. My husband was useless (he cannot speak in those settings except to agree with whatever they want.) and others always had a conflict. REFUSE to sign anything other than notes that you were there if you do not agree with what happens. </p><p></p><p>At meetings where I had my books they often did not try to throw big words at me and they did not try to tell me the the law said that whatever had to happen. with-o the books I was told that he was not eligible for a resource room to spend time in when overwhelmed, that he was not allowed to take extra bathroom breaks or keep a water bottle with him even when medication side effects meant those were needed and the docs wrote rx's for as many bathroom breaks as Wiz thought he needed and for him to ALWAYS have a water bottle with him. They even tried to tell me that they couldn't keep an inhaler at school -that if he needed his inhaler for asthma then I had to drive to school with it, give it to him, and take it home. They tried other koi also, all of it against what the laws say. I got so much of that cut out when they thought I could pull out the laws from the books. It actually shortened IEP meetings by over an HOUR.</p><p></p><p>I did NOT know what all the post it notes were flagging, just certain key ones. They just THOUGHT that I did, and it made a big difference. One teacher kept insisting he was bipolar because she took a seminar on bipolar students (other parents told me she thought every student in her classes was bipolar - she taught jr high english!). She CLEARLY had not read The Bipolar Child and having it quoted to her got her to shut up, which was needed. </p><p></p><p>Whatever goes on, be gentle with yourself. Wear your rhino skin armor, and you can even borrow mine if you want a second set in reserve. We will be right there with you in spirit, sitting you your shoulders like the little angles whispering in your ear (or devils, depending - lol). Make SURE that you have some nice treat for yourself for after the meeting. Even if it is just a quiet cup of tea and a book to read. Just something all for YOU.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 357763, member: 1233"] I would not step foot into the Manifestation Hearing or this positive behavior thingy with-o an advocate and/or attorney. I have a feeling they are planning to try to push you into something that they cannot really do with the Manifestation Hearing, hence the other thingy. They may even try to pull the old "report to children's services" if you don't agree with whatever BS they want. I really think that a doctor who will give you a diagnosis would help. It would give some idea of what interventions and medications might work. If they say he is bipolar you would stay away from stimulants and antidepressants and try mood stabilizers and antipsychotics first, for example. This "no diagnosis" bull leaves you clueless, in my opinion. Regardless of what the doctor does, get an advocate or attorney to go with you to this meeting. Even if the advocate is just a friend or family member, do NOT go alone. If you DO have to go alone, get a copy of Wrightslaw and maybe The Bipolar Child (if you think it is BiPolar (BP)) or a book about Aspergers or whatever you think it is. Go through and put post-it notes on certain pages. Of course those about Manifestation Hearings, but also about FAPE in LRE (Free and Appropriate Public Education in Least Restrictive Environment), and whatever else catches your fancy. Make SURE they see you put the books on the table. It is a ploy meant to help them realize you know your rights. I often could not get an advocate or even a family member or friend to attend the IEP meetings with me. My husband was useless (he cannot speak in those settings except to agree with whatever they want.) and others always had a conflict. REFUSE to sign anything other than notes that you were there if you do not agree with what happens. At meetings where I had my books they often did not try to throw big words at me and they did not try to tell me the the law said that whatever had to happen. with-o the books I was told that he was not eligible for a resource room to spend time in when overwhelmed, that he was not allowed to take extra bathroom breaks or keep a water bottle with him even when medication side effects meant those were needed and the docs wrote rx's for as many bathroom breaks as Wiz thought he needed and for him to ALWAYS have a water bottle with him. They even tried to tell me that they couldn't keep an inhaler at school -that if he needed his inhaler for asthma then I had to drive to school with it, give it to him, and take it home. They tried other koi also, all of it against what the laws say. I got so much of that cut out when they thought I could pull out the laws from the books. It actually shortened IEP meetings by over an HOUR. I did NOT know what all the post it notes were flagging, just certain key ones. They just THOUGHT that I did, and it made a big difference. One teacher kept insisting he was bipolar because she took a seminar on bipolar students (other parents told me she thought every student in her classes was bipolar - she taught jr high english!). She CLEARLY had not read The Bipolar Child and having it quoted to her got her to shut up, which was needed. Whatever goes on, be gentle with yourself. Wear your rhino skin armor, and you can even borrow mine if you want a second set in reserve. We will be right there with you in spirit, sitting you your shoulders like the little angles whispering in your ear (or devils, depending - lol). Make SURE that you have some nice treat for yourself for after the meeting. Even if it is just a quiet cup of tea and a book to read. Just something all for YOU. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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