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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 82076" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hi, NNT. Getting the appointments on the same day - we try to do that. It's getting more difficult for us because as the kids get older, the older two are more independent and trying to organise their schedules as well is tricky. But I deliberately chose a pediatrician (who is the doctor who looks after this sort of thing in Australia) who could see all three kids at the same time.</p><p></p><p>Getting a joint appointment means we take up an hour or more of the doctor's time, and to book a solid hour means plenty of advance warning, but I book appointments several at a time, in advance. For example, I know he wants to see difficult child 3's half-yearly and yearly school reports, so I make two of the year's appointments to correspond with that. And since he wants to see difficult child 3 at 3 month intervals, and the other two at six month intervals, I book the other two kids in to coincide with school reports also. Then I book just for difficult child 3 in the midpoint of the other appointments. This also means that if one of the other kids is having trouble, I can get them squeezed in on the same day as a difficult child 3 appointment, or if difficult child 3 is going well I will swap the kids around.</p><p></p><p>A short while ago we were having trouble with difficult child 1 and his suddenly increased Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)/compulsive behaviour in general. HE was even commenting on it, it was bothering him, so I was able to get him seen on an emergency basis. But generally, the doctor gets the whole family all on the one session. It can get very lively indeed, but he learns a lot watching all the interactions, as well as hearing them 'dob in' each other for any weirdness they've been doing lately.</p><p></p><p>As for the change in medication schedule - I can't help you there, except to say - if it works, then keep it. If it makes things worse, go back to what was better. Just because the rules say we should do things a certain way - sometimes our kids break the rules just because they are different. Trust your own instincts and observations.</p><p></p><p>As for her mother - poor kid! "Loving the drug first" may be the only way to explain it. A lot of parents are like this unfortunately - and it's not always the drug they love first. For some, it's themselves they put first. This doesn't mean they don't love their kids - it's just that they don't know how to be parents and simply can't cope with the reality of parenthood. Instead, they love the IDEA of being parents, of having a kid somewhere they can put up on a pedestal and dream about when they are getting their next high. But those drams are really like the dreams we maybe had as youngsters of one day having our own house to look after, and a husband to care for - a vast difference from the reality.</p><p>A mother like this is more like a relative you might visit, if they are available and have the time. You might take a tea cake, or a packet of biscuits, but you're always glad to go home to your own space again. No matter how much you enjoy spending time with that relative (or not) it is more a duty than something you throw heart and soul into. A part of yourself always knows that home is where you have been living. It's being able to emotionally detach like this, when in y our heart you feel there should be more - that hurts. She needs to know she is loved and wanted - by her father, by you. And in a weird way, maybe by her biological mother, who simply doesn't know HOW to be a proper mother, she has become the relative you visit. Or maybe talk about visiting, when she is available and you can handle it.</p><p></p><p>And most of all, she needs to learn to value and love herself. That's very difficult, with all the mixed signals her bio-mum is sending her. But those mixed signals are because drugs are her top priority, and NOBODY can compete with the emotional lure of a drug.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 82076, member: 1991"] Hi, NNT. Getting the appointments on the same day - we try to do that. It's getting more difficult for us because as the kids get older, the older two are more independent and trying to organise their schedules as well is tricky. But I deliberately chose a pediatrician (who is the doctor who looks after this sort of thing in Australia) who could see all three kids at the same time. Getting a joint appointment means we take up an hour or more of the doctor's time, and to book a solid hour means plenty of advance warning, but I book appointments several at a time, in advance. For example, I know he wants to see difficult child 3's half-yearly and yearly school reports, so I make two of the year's appointments to correspond with that. And since he wants to see difficult child 3 at 3 month intervals, and the other two at six month intervals, I book the other two kids in to coincide with school reports also. Then I book just for difficult child 3 in the midpoint of the other appointments. This also means that if one of the other kids is having trouble, I can get them squeezed in on the same day as a difficult child 3 appointment, or if difficult child 3 is going well I will swap the kids around. A short while ago we were having trouble with difficult child 1 and his suddenly increased Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)/compulsive behaviour in general. HE was even commenting on it, it was bothering him, so I was able to get him seen on an emergency basis. But generally, the doctor gets the whole family all on the one session. It can get very lively indeed, but he learns a lot watching all the interactions, as well as hearing them 'dob in' each other for any weirdness they've been doing lately. As for the change in medication schedule - I can't help you there, except to say - if it works, then keep it. If it makes things worse, go back to what was better. Just because the rules say we should do things a certain way - sometimes our kids break the rules just because they are different. Trust your own instincts and observations. As for her mother - poor kid! "Loving the drug first" may be the only way to explain it. A lot of parents are like this unfortunately - and it's not always the drug they love first. For some, it's themselves they put first. This doesn't mean they don't love their kids - it's just that they don't know how to be parents and simply can't cope with the reality of parenthood. Instead, they love the IDEA of being parents, of having a kid somewhere they can put up on a pedestal and dream about when they are getting their next high. But those drams are really like the dreams we maybe had as youngsters of one day having our own house to look after, and a husband to care for - a vast difference from the reality. A mother like this is more like a relative you might visit, if they are available and have the time. You might take a tea cake, or a packet of biscuits, but you're always glad to go home to your own space again. No matter how much you enjoy spending time with that relative (or not) it is more a duty than something you throw heart and soul into. A part of yourself always knows that home is where you have been living. It's being able to emotionally detach like this, when in y our heart you feel there should be more - that hurts. She needs to know she is loved and wanted - by her father, by you. And in a weird way, maybe by her biological mother, who simply doesn't know HOW to be a proper mother, she has become the relative you visit. Or maybe talk about visiting, when she is available and you can handle it. And most of all, she needs to learn to value and love herself. That's very difficult, with all the mixed signals her bio-mum is sending her. But those mixed signals are because drugs are her top priority, and NOBODY can compete with the emotional lure of a drug. Marg [/QUOTE]
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