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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 317972" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Double-check as to what causes the problem. Chances are, it's not sugar, it's caffeine. We often blame sugar when other factors are possible culprits. Food colourings, flavourings, preservatives... and, of course, caffeine.</p><p></p><p>Our bodies need sugar to live. Plain sucrose gets metabolised to glucose. Kids often get loaded up with sugar at parties and often the party atmosphere will also send some kids a bit wild. But in our house - we found caffeine to be a huge problem with the boys, especially. They could have sugar in many forms, but not cola drinks and not energy bars.</p><p></p><p>His response to why he lied - that is very normal. it also shows lack of foresight (impulse control issues). He needsto know that stealing form his brother was a bad thing, eating something banned is a bad thing, and lying about it, althoughnatural, is also a bad thing and soomething he is not skilled at. Lying when you're not skilled at it means you WILL get caught, so it is better to learn to not lie.</p><p></p><p>I would also push the angle of, "How would you feel if your brother had stolen money belonging to you, to buy something that is not permitted?"</p><p></p><p>Another angle to also try, when he's served his time, is to work with you to find a replacement snack that IS permitted and to help him understand WHY those energy bars are bad for him. There are low GI sugars now available, maybe he could use some of that to make a low GI energy bar (NOT containing caffeine, or guraana which is just caffeine with a different name) that he can proudly own. Maybe even sell to friends?</p><p></p><p>We went through a serious elimination diet with difficult child 3 and he had to understand WHY so many foods he loved were not forbidden. It was a very restricted diet as well as an unhealthy one long-term, the only sweet things available to him were honeycomb (the stuff made with sugar syrup and bicarb soda) and peeled pears. As for main meals - none of his favourites. Very plain food, no herbs, no spices, no onion or garlic. No tomatoes. The only vegetables permitted were potatoes. Really, really strict. Poor kid. But he did his utmost to cooperate, because he knew that the more he cooperated, the sooner it would all be over. And I bought him lots of honeycomb as a treat and reward for being so good about it all. Of course he would whine, I just hugged him and said, "I know, life's not fair sometimes. It will be worth it when it's all over, do it right and we'll never have to do this again."</p><p></p><p>It's not fair, being our kids. They can't walk all over other peope, though. They have to learn that despite their disability (which we will take into account) they still have to learn to consider others and also take personal responsiblity. Outside that - I try to find ways that I can help them around a hurdle. His hurdle - he wanted a sweet treat. So he should have come to you and asked for help with this, and not tried to sneak it.</p><p></p><p>A favourite sweet treat for difficult child 3, is carrot peel. He loves raw carrot but there's something about thin strips of carrot that is a special treat. I have to buy carrots in quantity or we run out. He's learnt to raid the fridge for raw vegetables, even though we do have some sweet things available to raid. But generally we're a biscuit-free household.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes changing the look of something or presenting it in a different way, can appeal. A salad presented to look like a face can be fun. Alfalfa sprouts for hair (or carrot shreds), cherry tomato eyes or cheeks, celery eyebrows and ears (sliced stems) - you can have fun as a family, doing this. Similarly, making pizza. I use slices of bread (toasted or not) and have plates of chopped ingredients available for kids to assemble their own. Let them sneak bits from these plates, since it's generally all healthy food. Ration the ham, that's all. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 317972, member: 1991"] Double-check as to what causes the problem. Chances are, it's not sugar, it's caffeine. We often blame sugar when other factors are possible culprits. Food colourings, flavourings, preservatives... and, of course, caffeine. Our bodies need sugar to live. Plain sucrose gets metabolised to glucose. Kids often get loaded up with sugar at parties and often the party atmosphere will also send some kids a bit wild. But in our house - we found caffeine to be a huge problem with the boys, especially. They could have sugar in many forms, but not cola drinks and not energy bars. His response to why he lied - that is very normal. it also shows lack of foresight (impulse control issues). He needsto know that stealing form his brother was a bad thing, eating something banned is a bad thing, and lying about it, althoughnatural, is also a bad thing and soomething he is not skilled at. Lying when you're not skilled at it means you WILL get caught, so it is better to learn to not lie. I would also push the angle of, "How would you feel if your brother had stolen money belonging to you, to buy something that is not permitted?" Another angle to also try, when he's served his time, is to work with you to find a replacement snack that IS permitted and to help him understand WHY those energy bars are bad for him. There are low GI sugars now available, maybe he could use some of that to make a low GI energy bar (NOT containing caffeine, or guraana which is just caffeine with a different name) that he can proudly own. Maybe even sell to friends? We went through a serious elimination diet with difficult child 3 and he had to understand WHY so many foods he loved were not forbidden. It was a very restricted diet as well as an unhealthy one long-term, the only sweet things available to him were honeycomb (the stuff made with sugar syrup and bicarb soda) and peeled pears. As for main meals - none of his favourites. Very plain food, no herbs, no spices, no onion or garlic. No tomatoes. The only vegetables permitted were potatoes. Really, really strict. Poor kid. But he did his utmost to cooperate, because he knew that the more he cooperated, the sooner it would all be over. And I bought him lots of honeycomb as a treat and reward for being so good about it all. Of course he would whine, I just hugged him and said, "I know, life's not fair sometimes. It will be worth it when it's all over, do it right and we'll never have to do this again." It's not fair, being our kids. They can't walk all over other peope, though. They have to learn that despite their disability (which we will take into account) they still have to learn to consider others and also take personal responsiblity. Outside that - I try to find ways that I can help them around a hurdle. His hurdle - he wanted a sweet treat. So he should have come to you and asked for help with this, and not tried to sneak it. A favourite sweet treat for difficult child 3, is carrot peel. He loves raw carrot but there's something about thin strips of carrot that is a special treat. I have to buy carrots in quantity or we run out. He's learnt to raid the fridge for raw vegetables, even though we do have some sweet things available to raid. But generally we're a biscuit-free household. Sometimes changing the look of something or presenting it in a different way, can appeal. A salad presented to look like a face can be fun. Alfalfa sprouts for hair (or carrot shreds), cherry tomato eyes or cheeks, celery eyebrows and ears (sliced stems) - you can have fun as a family, doing this. Similarly, making pizza. I use slices of bread (toasted or not) and have plates of chopped ingredients available for kids to assemble their own. Let them sneak bits from these plates, since it's generally all healthy food. Ration the ham, that's all. Hang in there. Marg [/QUOTE]
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