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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 12806" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>been there done that, the way your post is worded 'I' read it that you are blaming parents for the way their children behave - even if they have a diagnosis that typically has behavior issues as one of the problems. </p><p></p><p>I do not think you can say ALWAYS to anything on this board. I have been here long enough to know that no two children are the same. Even children brought up in the same house. </p><p></p><p>What I think you may mean to educate people on is this: traditional parenting most likely will not help your difficult child. I believe this. I do not know it to be a fact. Some difficult children may benefit from traditional parenting. </p><p>To me this was the hardest part. Changing the way I believed was best to parent my child. Stepping out of my comfort zone to parent in a way that seemed counterproductive - and would be with most children. </p><p></p><p>What do I do? Well, I certainly had to have unbelievable amounts of patience and calmness. I already had people telling me that I was way more patient than they were, yet I had to increase my patience and tolerance. I had to learn to react slower and with much more thought than doing what came to mind first. Slowly, I started to see difficult child react differently to my not reacting immediately. Having some success encouraged the behavior I was trying to change in myself. </p><p></p><p>I certainly do not mean to offend anyone by this post. I just think all members need to realize that every child is different and what you did that worked for your child may not work for mine. The value in hearing both your story and mine is that other members get options. The option they choose may not work, so there is another one. </p><p></p><p>But, I do not believe you can say that ODD is ALWAYS due to a parenting issue. And the way I read it, that is what you implied.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 12806, member: 391"] been there done that, the way your post is worded 'I' read it that you are blaming parents for the way their children behave - even if they have a diagnosis that typically has behavior issues as one of the problems. I do not think you can say ALWAYS to anything on this board. I have been here long enough to know that no two children are the same. Even children brought up in the same house. What I think you may mean to educate people on is this: traditional parenting most likely will not help your difficult child. I believe this. I do not know it to be a fact. Some difficult children may benefit from traditional parenting. To me this was the hardest part. Changing the way I believed was best to parent my child. Stepping out of my comfort zone to parent in a way that seemed counterproductive - and would be with most children. What do I do? Well, I certainly had to have unbelievable amounts of patience and calmness. I already had people telling me that I was way more patient than they were, yet I had to increase my patience and tolerance. I had to learn to react slower and with much more thought than doing what came to mind first. Slowly, I started to see difficult child react differently to my not reacting immediately. Having some success encouraged the behavior I was trying to change in myself. I certainly do not mean to offend anyone by this post. I just think all members need to realize that every child is different and what you did that worked for your child may not work for mine. The value in hearing both your story and mine is that other members get options. The option they choose may not work, so there is another one. But, I do not believe you can say that ODD is ALWAYS due to a parenting issue. And the way I read it, that is what you implied. [/QUOTE]
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