I have a 10 yr old son with a diagnosis of adhd. From birth he has been different from my other two sons. He is the middle child. We've tried play therapy for over a year when he was 5 years old. He was suspended from pre-k for a couple days for an inability to keep his hands to himself. He was often in trouble in kindergarten, and first grade. He was suspended for a week in second grade for being too rough on the playground (choking a girl). This was the episode that finally got the attention of his pediatrician who referred us to a counselor - his testing results showed a very high score for Adha and oppositional disorder. We started adderall and had much success with the hyperactivity. However, the oppositional issue continues to challenge us daily. He is not invited to parties, and we've recently been told by two different families that they do not want him to come to their homes or for their sons to play with him - primarily because he argues with the parents. He plays on a basketball and baseball team - both coaches do not want him to be on the team because he argues with them, loses his temper, yells at the coaches, etc. I am exhausted. I don't know what to do - we've tried counseling off and on and it does not seem to matter. We've tried to acknowledge his good behavior and down play the bad. It does not seem to matter. I don't know if there is other medications to assist in treatment or what the next step should be. My heart aches for him, he is a sweet, caring boy - but he can not control his behavior, he cries telling me he tries but he can't stop. Any recommendations? Any books? Anything that works? Thanks!