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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 352941" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I am almost positive that if your local child protection agency knew your son had been accused and found guilty of molesting a female sibling, he would not be allowed to reside in your home, even just for the summer, since you have a minor child. I would be highly suspicious that this was actually reported if you don't trust ex. </p><p></p><p>Sexually harassing girls at school and molesting a family member are offenses for which he should be placed in a therapeutic environment, not a home were there are other children living - both ex's home and yours.</p><p></p><p>It would behoove you to find out more details about this with ex. Don't worry one minute about his guilt trip. Tell him, will all conviction and strength in your voice that you are compelled to protect your daughter and you do not feel it will be safe to have your son in your home, period. If he baulks, let him baulk. The best thing that could happen to your son is treatment, not sweeping his issues under a rug by his dad. What is he going to do, drop your son off in your front yard and speed away?</p><p></p><p>I can only imagine how overwhelmed you are. But you have to stay strong for your daughter and show your ex you will not compromise her safety. </p><p></p><p>You know, it is sad, but many members here have given everything they have, financially and emotionally, to help their children. But sometimes, it's just not enough. Sometimes our children are damaged beyond help. Sometimes defeat, or I guess it really is acceptance, is the only outcome. You obviously tried your best when your son was in your custody. You did what you could do as his mom. At this point, it really is out of your hands. In no circumstance should you allow your son to be with your daughter. Your son, very probably, has other issues either beyond or instead of CD. </p><p></p><p>I am deeply saddened by your situation and cannot imagine how you deal with the knowledge. As you have already heard from another member, this happens. We have other members who are not as active anymore who have had to have one of their children removed from the home due to molestation of a sibling. It is probably the single most devastating situation a parent has to deal with short of the death of a child. Stay strong in your convictions of not allowing your son in your home, but love him all the same. You may be the only one that is capable of recognizing how serious this situation really is. I'm not sure what state you are in, but I'm kinda wondering if you were to speak with someone at your local CPS office, what the chances were that if your son were brought to your home by his father, could immediate residential placement be made? Since you are talking different counties (or is it state), I'm not sure how it works. It might be worth a call on your part.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 352941, member: 805"] I am almost positive that if your local child protection agency knew your son had been accused and found guilty of molesting a female sibling, he would not be allowed to reside in your home, even just for the summer, since you have a minor child. I would be highly suspicious that this was actually reported if you don't trust ex. Sexually harassing girls at school and molesting a family member are offenses for which he should be placed in a therapeutic environment, not a home were there are other children living - both ex's home and yours. It would behoove you to find out more details about this with ex. Don't worry one minute about his guilt trip. Tell him, will all conviction and strength in your voice that you are compelled to protect your daughter and you do not feel it will be safe to have your son in your home, period. If he baulks, let him baulk. The best thing that could happen to your son is treatment, not sweeping his issues under a rug by his dad. What is he going to do, drop your son off in your front yard and speed away? I can only imagine how overwhelmed you are. But you have to stay strong for your daughter and show your ex you will not compromise her safety. You know, it is sad, but many members here have given everything they have, financially and emotionally, to help their children. But sometimes, it's just not enough. Sometimes our children are damaged beyond help. Sometimes defeat, or I guess it really is acceptance, is the only outcome. You obviously tried your best when your son was in your custody. You did what you could do as his mom. At this point, it really is out of your hands. In no circumstance should you allow your son to be with your daughter. Your son, very probably, has other issues either beyond or instead of CD. I am deeply saddened by your situation and cannot imagine how you deal with the knowledge. As you have already heard from another member, this happens. We have other members who are not as active anymore who have had to have one of their children removed from the home due to molestation of a sibling. It is probably the single most devastating situation a parent has to deal with short of the death of a child. Stay strong in your convictions of not allowing your son in your home, but love him all the same. You may be the only one that is capable of recognizing how serious this situation really is. I'm not sure what state you are in, but I'm kinda wondering if you were to speak with someone at your local CPS office, what the chances were that if your son were brought to your home by his father, could immediate residential placement be made? Since you are talking different counties (or is it state), I'm not sure how it works. It might be worth a call on your part. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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