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<blockquote data-quote="helpme" data-source="post: 352965" data-attributes="member: 8202"><p>Her difficult child is in the county bordering mine. She has a great</p><p>older professional judge where difficult child lives who is hard on parents</p><p>charged with neglect and listens to families with difficult children.</p><p><strong><strong>LittleDudesMom</strong></strong></p><p>"what the chances were that if your son were brought to your home by his father, could</p><p>immediate residential placement be made? Since you are talking different counties</p><p>(or is it state), I'm not sure how it works. It might be worth a call on your part."</p><p></p><p>That's where I was going. But I wonder if she should</p><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">utilize her custody and having a plan beforehand to get placement</li> </ul><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">find another family member to help for a bit as she then can document the</li> </ul><p> problems and get difficult child the help he needs</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">let ex deal with all of the problems</li> </ul><p> and things might go quicker since the child seems totally out of control</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">take him and then use LE/DCFS to get the information she needs on her son</li> </ul><p> as quickly as possible, deal with ex, on her choices with difficult child, and attempt to</p><p> "work" with ex.</p><p></p><p>Whatever she chooses to do, she needs a plan, as she proceeds with each agency.</p><p>Because you know that</p><p></p><ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">getting the information is going to make ex mad and</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">ex seems like he is embarrassed and still "hiding" from the situation.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">her child really needs help ASAP</li> </ol><p>I also wonder how tight of a custody agreement she has. Was it updated</p><p>to include both of their new addresses? Or at least her new address?</p><p>Does it list who else lives in the home for both the mother and the father. </p><p>Is it recent? Can she make a quick agreement with ex to hold custody</p><p>over the summer, before taking the child?</p><p></p><p>I'd also love to know if she has medical, temp & perm & disciplinary</p><p>school records, and contact with any other adult that the father does</p><p>not know, where her son is living.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpme, post: 352965, member: 8202"] Her difficult child is in the county bordering mine. She has a great older professional judge where difficult child lives who is hard on parents charged with neglect and listens to families with difficult children. [B][B]LittleDudesMom[/B][/B] "what the chances were that if your son were brought to your home by his father, could immediate residential placement be made? Since you are talking different counties (or is it state), I'm not sure how it works. It might be worth a call on your part." That's where I was going. But I wonder if she should [LIST] [*]utilize her custody and having a plan beforehand to get placement [/LIST] [LIST] [*]find another family member to help for a bit as she then can document the [/LIST] problems and get difficult child the help he needs [LIST] [*]let ex deal with all of the problems [/LIST] and things might go quicker since the child seems totally out of control [LIST] [*]take him and then use LE/DCFS to get the information she needs on her son [/LIST] as quickly as possible, deal with ex, on her choices with difficult child, and attempt to "work" with ex. Whatever she chooses to do, she needs a plan, as she proceeds with each agency. Because you know that [LIST=1] [*]getting the information is going to make ex mad and [*]ex seems like he is embarrassed and still "hiding" from the situation. [*]her child really needs help ASAP [/LIST] I also wonder how tight of a custody agreement she has. Was it updated to include both of their new addresses? Or at least her new address? Does it list who else lives in the home for both the mother and the father. Is it recent? Can she make a quick agreement with ex to hold custody over the summer, before taking the child? I'd also love to know if she has medical, temp & perm & disciplinary school records, and contact with any other adult that the father does not know, where her son is living. [/QUOTE]
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