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Truthsong
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Greetings, all
I got up this morning to talk to my 15yo Aspie son who was getting ready for school. We ended the evening on a bad note last night because of some poor choice he had made and I didn't sleep well because of it. I just wanted to tell him I loved him and hoped that he had a good day at school. But I never got the chance. I started out telling him something about the toothpaste I set out for him but it didn't take long for the conversation to deteriorate. I can't even really remember what happened. All I know is that he started talking to me with disrespect and a tone of rudeness that I will not abide. So rather than keep fighting, I just said goodbye and went back to my room, disheartened. I know I had as much to do with the deterioration as he did. And this morning, that brought back into sharp relief how unhealthy our relationship's patterns are.
I'm just so exhausted and not sure what to do. The battles over stupid little things are just really taking their toll and I love the boy. My husband is not his father and though he's tried so hard over the years to be a good parent, he is even more fed up because there is no bond between them.
Anyway, I started looking for alternative boarding schools for my son and in my Google search, this forum came up. So I thought I would sign up so that I could talk to others who have the same or similar issues. I have a lot of support in other areas of my life, but I don't know anyone else dealing with this sort of thing. I'm hoping I can get a little relief here.
Thanks for reading. I look forward to getting to know people here and to helping wherever I can as well.
Peace to all
I got up this morning to talk to my 15yo Aspie son who was getting ready for school. We ended the evening on a bad note last night because of some poor choice he had made and I didn't sleep well because of it. I just wanted to tell him I loved him and hoped that he had a good day at school. But I never got the chance. I started out telling him something about the toothpaste I set out for him but it didn't take long for the conversation to deteriorate. I can't even really remember what happened. All I know is that he started talking to me with disrespect and a tone of rudeness that I will not abide. So rather than keep fighting, I just said goodbye and went back to my room, disheartened. I know I had as much to do with the deterioration as he did. And this morning, that brought back into sharp relief how unhealthy our relationship's patterns are.
I'm just so exhausted and not sure what to do. The battles over stupid little things are just really taking their toll and I love the boy. My husband is not his father and though he's tried so hard over the years to be a good parent, he is even more fed up because there is no bond between them.
Anyway, I started looking for alternative boarding schools for my son and in my Google search, this forum came up. So I thought I would sign up so that I could talk to others who have the same or similar issues. I have a lot of support in other areas of my life, but I don't know anyone else dealing with this sort of thing. I'm hoping I can get a little relief here.
Thanks for reading. I look forward to getting to know people here and to helping wherever I can as well.
Peace to all