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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 524894" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Oh boy CG do I understand. Our difficult child had it so good, two parents who truly loved and supported everything she did, a sister who doted on her and just wanted to have a sister, a nice house, a stable family, vacations, good values, an opportunity to be really successful in her life.....everything. And yet she turned to peers who were losers and that is who she wanted to be with. She turned her back on everything we stood for and for a long time I was angry. How could she do that to us?????? It wasn't until just recently that I came to terms with the fact that she didn't do it to us, she did it to herself. I carried the hurt and pain of her rejection around with me like a badge. I now realize she is hurting herself, causing herself pain, doing things that she will never be able to take back, making decisions that change the course of her life and may even kill her.</p><p></p><p>I think the best thing you have going for you is to keep her in counseling with someone that can help her recover herself, her self esteem, her own goals and passions in life. My difficult child had no passions in life, except for risky behaviors. We know where she got hers since we adopted her and her background is filled with addictions and risky behaviors. She was never able to be helped by any of the counseling she had over the years because her inherited behaviors got in the wway. But your daughter has a change to figure out why she doesn't feel right in her skin and make the changes she needs to make to fix that.</p><p></p><p>I look back every day and wonder how my difficult child could give up what she could have. It makes no sense to me. But that is what addiction does. I hope your daughter gets the help she needs before addiction gets it's stronghold.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 524894, member: 59"] Oh boy CG do I understand. Our difficult child had it so good, two parents who truly loved and supported everything she did, a sister who doted on her and just wanted to have a sister, a nice house, a stable family, vacations, good values, an opportunity to be really successful in her life.....everything. And yet she turned to peers who were losers and that is who she wanted to be with. She turned her back on everything we stood for and for a long time I was angry. How could she do that to us?????? It wasn't until just recently that I came to terms with the fact that she didn't do it to us, she did it to herself. I carried the hurt and pain of her rejection around with me like a badge. I now realize she is hurting herself, causing herself pain, doing things that she will never be able to take back, making decisions that change the course of her life and may even kill her. I think the best thing you have going for you is to keep her in counseling with someone that can help her recover herself, her self esteem, her own goals and passions in life. My difficult child had no passions in life, except for risky behaviors. We know where she got hers since we adopted her and her background is filled with addictions and risky behaviors. She was never able to be helped by any of the counseling she had over the years because her inherited behaviors got in the wway. But your daughter has a change to figure out why she doesn't feel right in her skin and make the changes she needs to make to fix that. I look back every day and wonder how my difficult child could give up what she could have. It makes no sense to me. But that is what addiction does. I hope your daughter gets the help she needs before addiction gets it's stronghold. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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