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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 525206" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>CG - after your last post describing the situations some of difficult children "friends" find themselves in, I am wondering if it may make sense to "shake things up" this summer and send her to Wilderness for a month or so. I will tell you, it won't "fix" everything, but it will stop the pattern of behavior and maybe get her to look at her choices. It also send a message that she is still lliving under the guidance of her parents. The aimlessness is so troubling, I can totally relate. When I was in your situation, a lot of people suggested my difficult child work at a camp for youth as a CIT or something like that. The problem was, at the level he was functioning, it would not have worked out. He was ONLY interested in being accepted by his "bad ass" crew. The way he presented himself, he never wouold have gotten in as a CIT. I know Wilderness is VERY expensive. We made the great sacrifice of using my son's college money to pay for it. The way things were going, college was not in the picture anyway. If that is not a viable option for you, I would still recommend finding something therapeutic for her to do over the summer, not just one on one counseling once a week. I know where I live, there is a wilderness style day camp for teens, an IOP at a bahavioral health clinic and a bahavioral health IOP program at a nearby hospital. If I knew then what I know now, I would have sent him to Wilderness for 4 weeks just to set the stage that "things are going to change". Then, I would have brought him home and had him attend the IOP while living at home with access to "his life" with the goal of teaching him how to make better choices within his own life. Food for thought - summer can be a time to try to make a difference, but it can also be a time of too much unstructurred time and further decline.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 525206, member: 12490"] CG - after your last post describing the situations some of difficult children "friends" find themselves in, I am wondering if it may make sense to "shake things up" this summer and send her to Wilderness for a month or so. I will tell you, it won't "fix" everything, but it will stop the pattern of behavior and maybe get her to look at her choices. It also send a message that she is still lliving under the guidance of her parents. The aimlessness is so troubling, I can totally relate. When I was in your situation, a lot of people suggested my difficult child work at a camp for youth as a CIT or something like that. The problem was, at the level he was functioning, it would not have worked out. He was ONLY interested in being accepted by his "bad ass" crew. The way he presented himself, he never wouold have gotten in as a CIT. I know Wilderness is VERY expensive. We made the great sacrifice of using my son's college money to pay for it. The way things were going, college was not in the picture anyway. If that is not a viable option for you, I would still recommend finding something therapeutic for her to do over the summer, not just one on one counseling once a week. I know where I live, there is a wilderness style day camp for teens, an IOP at a bahavioral health clinic and a bahavioral health IOP program at a nearby hospital. If I knew then what I know now, I would have sent him to Wilderness for 4 weeks just to set the stage that "things are going to change". Then, I would have brought him home and had him attend the IOP while living at home with access to "his life" with the goal of teaching him how to make better choices within his own life. Food for thought - summer can be a time to try to make a difference, but it can also be a time of too much unstructurred time and further decline. [/QUOTE]
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