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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 742328" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>It must be gratifying to him, all of this attention. But the thing is, all of this has been a prelude to the main event. And he will not enjoy much the main event, which is that he will have to focus upon himself and he will have the system, meaning CYS and the judge, and others, focused upon him.</p><p></p><p>As I write this, I am feeling more of what SWOT expresses, that you do not need, and perhaps should not need to deal with the unfolding of this. And in particular, your daughter need not deal with it.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your husband is holding her a little bit responsible, inferring to some extent that there has been an overreaction to her victimization and everybody needs to get on with their lives, and if they don't they need to remove themselves from a perfectly wonderful story. And that they are the bad guys if they keep ruining his perfectly wonderful story of his life and his family's life.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter should not be scapegoated by these people. Especially by your husband. And neither should you be scapegoated, and made the problem.</p><p></p><p>This sounds a lot like the great-grandparents. The everything is perfect story, that we can protect with money. We can just pretend.</p><p></p><p>Your husband is at a choice point in his life and you are too. There is nothing at all easy about this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 742328, member: 18958"] It must be gratifying to him, all of this attention. But the thing is, all of this has been a prelude to the main event. And he will not enjoy much the main event, which is that he will have to focus upon himself and he will have the system, meaning CYS and the judge, and others, focused upon him. As I write this, I am feeling more of what SWOT expresses, that you do not need, and perhaps should not need to deal with the unfolding of this. And in particular, your daughter need not deal with it. It sounds like your husband is holding her a little bit responsible, inferring to some extent that there has been an overreaction to her victimization and everybody needs to get on with their lives, and if they don't they need to remove themselves from a perfectly wonderful story. And that they are the bad guys if they keep ruining his perfectly wonderful story of his life and his family's life. Your daughter should not be scapegoated by these people. Especially by your husband. And neither should you be scapegoated, and made the problem. This sounds a lot like the great-grandparents. The everything is perfect story, that we can protect with money. We can just pretend. Your husband is at a choice point in his life and you are too. There is nothing at all easy about this. [/QUOTE]
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