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<blockquote data-quote="helpme" data-source="post: 335577" data-attributes="member: 8202"><p>Hi. I can offer some experience, but I think it's important to add</p><p>that I was dealing with southern IL, very close to St. Louis, and</p><p>I was dealing with a non difficult child D who was 16yo at the time.</p><p></p><p>After realizing the whole ordeal of being threatened by the police</p><p>for endangerment etc for not reporting her missing, and the fact </p><p>that she began using the police as a "game"/punishment to us,</p><p>I let go.</p><p></p><p>I think I was able to let go because I learned so much here.</p><p>The child was leaving the house, hiding nearby/or not, and</p><p>waiting for the cops to return. She was insisting she was locked</p><p>out of the house when she never was. </p><p></p><p>I wish I had been smarter at the time with such an older child.</p><p>I wish I had checked the other police stations and the courthouse</p><p>to discover that her father had been getting her out of a ton of</p><p>trouble. But to my credit, no one had "full custody" of the child</p><p>to actually get the help we needed. And by help, I mean as a </p><p>"family" unit.</p><p></p><p>So, I permitted CHASI to take the child. The CHASI person took</p><p>a long time to get to the police station and it probably took</p><p>all night to complete the paperwork. Do not permit temporary</p><p>custody by anyone you know or think might be a temporary</p><p>placement. It was a choice I made and it only made things</p><p>worse. </p><p></p><p>CHASI does not have any "legal" authority. Be very</p><p>careful in what you do. They seem to be very very afraid when</p><p>one mentions that CHASI representatives might need to</p><p>make court appearances.</p><p></p><p>Overall, for me, I doubt CHASI would be any assistance with a </p><p>difficult child or a easy child child. I did have the local police department</p><p>file an additional note into the police report, which included</p><p>the "true story" reported by those closest to the child. That</p><p>document DID help tremendously later on in court. I learned </p><p>a lot about giving "statements" and how to have those</p><p>"statements" assist in court proceedings for the entire family.</p><p></p><p>Another hint might be to check with your juvenile facility and</p><p>to see whether they offer any other assistance. </p><p></p><p>For my oldest difficult child, I achieved a lot more with the statement</p><p>of "he is a danger to himself and others", and had documentation</p><p>from his pediatrician and documents of his criminal history</p><p>hidden at the neighbors. In this situation, I feel you might</p><p>get the help that you need.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you, I wish you the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpme, post: 335577, member: 8202"] Hi. I can offer some experience, but I think it's important to add that I was dealing with southern IL, very close to St. Louis, and I was dealing with a non difficult child D who was 16yo at the time. After realizing the whole ordeal of being threatened by the police for endangerment etc for not reporting her missing, and the fact that she began using the police as a "game"/punishment to us, I let go. I think I was able to let go because I learned so much here. The child was leaving the house, hiding nearby/or not, and waiting for the cops to return. She was insisting she was locked out of the house when she never was. I wish I had been smarter at the time with such an older child. I wish I had checked the other police stations and the courthouse to discover that her father had been getting her out of a ton of trouble. But to my credit, no one had "full custody" of the child to actually get the help we needed. And by help, I mean as a "family" unit. So, I permitted CHASI to take the child. The CHASI person took a long time to get to the police station and it probably took all night to complete the paperwork. Do not permit temporary custody by anyone you know or think might be a temporary placement. It was a choice I made and it only made things worse. CHASI does not have any "legal" authority. Be very careful in what you do. They seem to be very very afraid when one mentions that CHASI representatives might need to make court appearances. Overall, for me, I doubt CHASI would be any assistance with a difficult child or a easy child child. I did have the local police department file an additional note into the police report, which included the "true story" reported by those closest to the child. That document DID help tremendously later on in court. I learned a lot about giving "statements" and how to have those "statements" assist in court proceedings for the entire family. Another hint might be to check with your juvenile facility and to see whether they offer any other assistance. For my oldest difficult child, I achieved a lot more with the statement of "he is a danger to himself and others", and had documentation from his pediatrician and documents of his criminal history hidden at the neighbors. In this situation, I feel you might get the help that you need. Good luck to you, I wish you the best. [/QUOTE]
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