Hello, I am new to this forum, confused and hoping someone here can help me.
Background: I have a son who is now 9, that was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 5. He was having trouble focusing in school and sitting still. At the age of 4, we notcied in daycare that he was not able to get along well with other children and was not able to take instructions very well. Once in Kindergarten and in a school setting our troubles began. The neurologist who diagnosed him put him on Focalin XR. He is still on this medication 4 years later but they continue to bump us his mg every so often.
My main concern is that I feel there is more going on than just ADHD. He is a very smart child with great scores and grades but has so many social problems. He is very impulsive and angry sometimes. At school, if he feels someone is looking at him wrong he will just explode. He will resort to throwing chairs and pushing tables, tearing things off the walls. He cannot keep his hands to himself and just has an overall hard time making and keeping friends. Once this rage happens, it sometimes take him 10-15 minutes to calm completely down. He has been in In School Suspension several times and even suspended for his behavior. He tends to feel bad after the fact, and then wants to apologize. I notice that often he blames other people for his mistakes. For example: If I ask him why he was pushing at recess, he may say, "John Doe was sticking his tongue out at me and made me do it." He has a very hard time listening and following instructions. He recently decided he wanted to play baseball but now everytime we tell him he has a game or practice, he gets very angry. He says, he is bad at it and all the kids laugh at him, don't throw the ball to him, etc. (None of that is true, by the way). He just seems so unhappy all the time. Even when doing his favorite activities, he complains and whines almost the entire time these days.
We have tried counseling with him but he just clams up and wont say a word and just sits there. After 8 sessions and nothing, we took him out. We just couldn't afford to take him and him just sit there without any improvement. He sees a pediatric neurologist where we live but all the say is ADHD, ADHD, ADHD. I am so sick of hearing, he just has ADHD, I could scream!!! I kmow, as his Mom, there is something more going on than the typical ADHD diagnosis. He has the sweetest heart and I just want to help him!
Thanks for any replies in advance.
Background: I have a son who is now 9, that was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 5. He was having trouble focusing in school and sitting still. At the age of 4, we notcied in daycare that he was not able to get along well with other children and was not able to take instructions very well. Once in Kindergarten and in a school setting our troubles began. The neurologist who diagnosed him put him on Focalin XR. He is still on this medication 4 years later but they continue to bump us his mg every so often.
My main concern is that I feel there is more going on than just ADHD. He is a very smart child with great scores and grades but has so many social problems. He is very impulsive and angry sometimes. At school, if he feels someone is looking at him wrong he will just explode. He will resort to throwing chairs and pushing tables, tearing things off the walls. He cannot keep his hands to himself and just has an overall hard time making and keeping friends. Once this rage happens, it sometimes take him 10-15 minutes to calm completely down. He has been in In School Suspension several times and even suspended for his behavior. He tends to feel bad after the fact, and then wants to apologize. I notice that often he blames other people for his mistakes. For example: If I ask him why he was pushing at recess, he may say, "John Doe was sticking his tongue out at me and made me do it." He has a very hard time listening and following instructions. He recently decided he wanted to play baseball but now everytime we tell him he has a game or practice, he gets very angry. He says, he is bad at it and all the kids laugh at him, don't throw the ball to him, etc. (None of that is true, by the way). He just seems so unhappy all the time. Even when doing his favorite activities, he complains and whines almost the entire time these days.
We have tried counseling with him but he just clams up and wont say a word and just sits there. After 8 sessions and nothing, we took him out. We just couldn't afford to take him and him just sit there without any improvement. He sees a pediatric neurologist where we live but all the say is ADHD, ADHD, ADHD. I am so sick of hearing, he just has ADHD, I could scream!!! I kmow, as his Mom, there is something more going on than the typical ADHD diagnosis. He has the sweetest heart and I just want to help him!
Thanks for any replies in advance.