Hi, I realize your post was many years ago, but as we just fostered 4 children, 2 years ago and the youngest one is my breaking point!!!!!!! I don`t thinkg he`s quite as bad as your youngest, but I do believe he is incapable of care or concern of anyone but himself. He doesnt listen or hear me but he hears my husband when he speaks. SORRY, but my main questions is.......HOW can you deal with this you say you can deal with all of it, i DONT GET IT. I very often feel like sending him and ONLY him back to his social worker. The only problem is that i dont thinkg she has a clue about any of her children in care. I want to help but have a difficult time when he rEFUSES to listen to anything i say.