Hi Everyone, I'm new here, and feeling my way around. I do have one question, no doubt the first of many: My daughter was diagnosed with ODD and she's 10, this has been escalating, the out of control defiance, for years, we're currently in crisis mode, but my question is this- if she "can't help it" during a screaming (either yelling or hysterical crying in result of a request to "clean your room" "pick up your socks you just threw down on the frontroom floor") yet when I put a tape recorder out to record her, she claps her hand over her mouth and quiets down remarkably fast, how is this her not being able to control the outburst? I have a lot to learn, I've armed myself with books "the Defiant Child" "The manipulative child" "The explosive child" and a few others, if the kids sleep tonight I"ll skim through the books and read more thoroughly while I wait for her at her first counseling appointment on Thursday. I'm reading the older posts at the forum, what a relief knowing there are others who feel stressed out, who may have been abused by a former partner or spouse, and now the children are repeating some of it and I'm not the only parent who is disliking my child...... I"m at the beginning of this journey with my daughter, hopefully we can get out of crisis mode and learn how to cope and function and hopefully she can learn to become less miserable.