I am so glad to have found this site. It never occurred to me that having teenagers would be so upsetting for my husband and I. I thought we raised these three kids the best way we could; engaged in their school, played and coached sports, kept them on a short list. Everything was going OK until my middle child, my son, turned 12 and started running off when we asked him to do something, then came the apathy, the disinterest in school. His Sophomore year started off awful. He was put on probation for passing on a sexting message, then we caught him smoking pot, then I confiscated his phone to realize that he has had sex with two separate girls. He is about to turn 16 in a month! I have tried to scare him by showing him Scared Straight shows on A&E, had him watch a video named Overtaken about teenagers getting involved in drugs-starting with marijuana. My son thinks smoking pot is no big deal, yet his grades are terrible and he doesn't like high school at all. The only thing that he remotely cares about is his PT job. He is motivated to make money to buy a car. We are holding off on his getting a driver's license because of his bad behavior. He is rude, surly, uses profanity and is a total jerk. If we take away his job (which I don't want to do), I know things will get much worse with him having all this time on his hands. School is almost out in one month. I feel helpless, its if I am waiting for something to happen with his interest in marijuana. We tried to get him counseling and the counselor told me that he is "slick" and just gives her answers to move things along. I feel very much alone.