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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 619308" data-attributes="member: 805"><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3">Dunrock,</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000b3"><span style="font-size: 18px">I think it's always tougher to change behaviors that are embedded. Some of the things you speak about could be considered some typical teen defiance/experimentation (skipping, not listening) and others show deeper issues (cutting, threats of suicide). Since you have tried the grounding and the removal of privileges already, what about turning it 360 and rewarding the successes and good choices?</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3">I know you said he has been to numerous docs, but it he currently in talk therapy? Is he at all receptive to finding someone he can trust to speak to on a regular basis? Are there any positive male role models in the family that could step in and buddy him (not belittling your influence, but sometimes our difficult kids respond to someone "not in the middle of it")?</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3">Does he spend a lot of time on his own where he's left to his own devices? Idleness is never good for our difficult children! </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000b3"><span style="font-size: 18px">Your son sounds very much like mine son -- angry from birth, quick to temper, false sense of entitlement</span><span style="font-size: 15px">…</span><span style="font-size: 18px">..one thing that really made a difference for my son was regular talk therapy where he was taught copying techniques for his anger. He was shown not only alternatives but the ability to recognize the signs within himself when anger was building so he could "nip it in the bud". He was much younger than you son when we began therapy, but this is an ongoing challenge he deals with even now at 18. It's one reason the role model/mentor thing might be good for your son.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000b3"><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3">Is your son on any medication for his adhd? Some of the stimulates can make our boys more aggressive. My son was on a stimulant and then a couple other things over the years that "shortened his fuse" until he matured enough to focus on it himself and use what he was taught. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #0000b3"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000b3"><span style="font-size: 18px">One thing that was very important for my son when we were working on changing behaviors were positive constants in his life and a little more structure than normally necessary at home. It's not so much fixing or changing him, but teaching him how to deal with himself - making them aware of the realities that they will live with for the rest of their lives.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000b3"><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000b3"><span style="font-size: 18px">Sharon</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 619308, member: 805"] [SIZE=5][COLOR=#0000b3]Dunrock, [/COLOR][/SIZE] [COLOR=#0000b3][SIZE=5]I think it's always tougher to change behaviors that are embedded. Some of the things you speak about could be considered some typical teen defiance/experimentation (skipping, not listening) and others show deeper issues (cutting, threats of suicide). Since you have tried the grounding and the removal of privileges already, what about turning it 360 and rewarding the successes and good choices?[/SIZE][/COLOR] [SIZE=5][COLOR=#0000b3]I know you said he has been to numerous docs, but it he currently in talk therapy? Is he at all receptive to finding someone he can trust to speak to on a regular basis? Are there any positive male role models in the family that could step in and buddy him (not belittling your influence, but sometimes our difficult kids respond to someone "not in the middle of it")? Does he spend a lot of time on his own where he's left to his own devices? Idleness is never good for our difficult children! [/COLOR][/SIZE] [COLOR=#0000b3][SIZE=5]Your son sounds very much like mine son -- angry from birth, quick to temper, false sense of entitlement[/SIZE][SIZE=4]…[/SIZE][SIZE=5]..one thing that really made a difference for my son was regular talk therapy where he was taught copying techniques for his anger. He was shown not only alternatives but the ability to recognize the signs within himself when anger was building so he could "nip it in the bud". He was much younger than you son when we began therapy, but this is an ongoing challenge he deals with even now at 18. It's one reason the role model/mentor thing might be good for your son. [/SIZE][/COLOR] [SIZE=5][COLOR=#0000b3]Is your son on any medication for his adhd? Some of the stimulates can make our boys more aggressive. My son was on a stimulant and then a couple other things over the years that "shortened his fuse" until he matured enough to focus on it himself and use what he was taught. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [COLOR=#0000b3][SIZE=5]One thing that was very important for my son when we were working on changing behaviors were positive constants in his life and a little more structure than normally necessary at home. It's not so much fixing or changing him, but teaching him how to deal with himself - making them aware of the realities that they will live with for the rest of their lives. Sharon[/SIZE][/COLOR] [SIZE=5][COLOR=#0000b3][/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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