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<blockquote data-quote="Dunrock" data-source="post: 619474" data-attributes="member: 17656"><p>Hello Sharon and Midwest. Thank you very much for your replies. To answer some of your questions, i have never tried the approach of rewarding successes. He has been seeing a psychologist for about a year now whom he is just starting to conncet with. We had a session yesterday and he directed both my son and I to write out and agree on house/life rules along with the consequences if they are broken. We met today and the first section was times to check in your phone and go to sleep. I proposed 10:00pm for phone check in and 10:30 pm to go to bed...hoping we could end up at around 11:00pm which i think is fair. Well he lost it right away and said that he will go to bed whenever he wants and his phone will not be checked. i kept my calm and told him that i cannot live by those rules. He than said he would like to go live in foster care. i am literally almost ready for something like that just to hopefully get him to see that life is not so bad. Is having your 14 year old boy checking in his phone by 11pm being a hard ass? are there any other approaches out there? Midwest, mom is basically out of the picture. Had enough and cant deal with the disrespect and behaviour. i have tried to get her to stay with me but she cant as she has a short fuse as well. I was looking and speaking with boarding schools (i live in canada) and am looking at a large financing arrangement. He tells me he feels smothered, wants to be treated like an adult, and he can make his own choices now...really starting to feel like rock bottom is near...Dunrock</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dunrock, post: 619474, member: 17656"] Hello Sharon and Midwest. Thank you very much for your replies. To answer some of your questions, i have never tried the approach of rewarding successes. He has been seeing a psychologist for about a year now whom he is just starting to conncet with. We had a session yesterday and he directed both my son and I to write out and agree on house/life rules along with the consequences if they are broken. We met today and the first section was times to check in your phone and go to sleep. I proposed 10:00pm for phone check in and 10:30 pm to go to bed...hoping we could end up at around 11:00pm which i think is fair. Well he lost it right away and said that he will go to bed whenever he wants and his phone will not be checked. i kept my calm and told him that i cannot live by those rules. He than said he would like to go live in foster care. i am literally almost ready for something like that just to hopefully get him to see that life is not so bad. Is having your 14 year old boy checking in his phone by 11pm being a hard ass? are there any other approaches out there? Midwest, mom is basically out of the picture. Had enough and cant deal with the disrespect and behaviour. i have tried to get her to stay with me but she cant as she has a short fuse as well. I was looking and speaking with boarding schools (i live in canada) and am looking at a large financing arrangement. He tells me he feels smothered, wants to be treated like an adult, and he can make his own choices now...really starting to feel like rock bottom is near...Dunrock [/QUOTE]
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