Allan-Matlem
Active Member
Hi,
good ideas - especially the back rub, learning calming strategies- breathing, mindfulness etc
good attachments , relationship, trust is for every kid - unconditional acceptance . Praise like rewards, consequences, punishments is problematic because with praise you are being judgmental - conditional and contingent on how he performs. Instead of praise ask the kid how he felt when he was successful or why he decided to do xyz and how he thought it impacted on others - the the other kid happy etc
Attachment parenting compliments with the collaborative problem solving approach. According to CPS your child has lagging skills and these manifest in a pile of unsolved problems. I would go to the Collaborative Problem Solving Approach by Dr. Ross Greene | Lives in the Balance site paperwork section and go through the list of ALSUP - assessed lagging skills and make a list of unsolved problems. Lots of problems involve others , so it is best to have the parent /sibling/teacher/ peer etc - the ones party to the problem involved in cps. Skills need to be taught in the context of unsolved problems and unmet concerns.
I highly recommend older brothers, buddy-tutors , mentors, peer mentors etc
At the therapist is not telling that he needs firmer discipline and more consequences
good ideas - especially the back rub, learning calming strategies- breathing, mindfulness etc
good attachments , relationship, trust is for every kid - unconditional acceptance . Praise like rewards, consequences, punishments is problematic because with praise you are being judgmental - conditional and contingent on how he performs. Instead of praise ask the kid how he felt when he was successful or why he decided to do xyz and how he thought it impacted on others - the the other kid happy etc
Attachment parenting compliments with the collaborative problem solving approach. According to CPS your child has lagging skills and these manifest in a pile of unsolved problems. I would go to the Collaborative Problem Solving Approach by Dr. Ross Greene | Lives in the Balance site paperwork section and go through the list of ALSUP - assessed lagging skills and make a list of unsolved problems. Lots of problems involve others , so it is best to have the parent /sibling/teacher/ peer etc - the ones party to the problem involved in cps. Skills need to be taught in the context of unsolved problems and unmet concerns.
I highly recommend older brothers, buddy-tutors , mentors, peer mentors etc
At the therapist is not telling that he needs firmer discipline and more consequences