Hi there, I'm Tamy, i'm 38, husband is 36. difficult child is going to be 8 in a few weeks and daughter will be 15 this summer. anyway, difficult child has been diagnosed with Adhd and comorbity but psychiatrist says he is bipolar. new counselor says she hasn't jumped on the bandwagon of bipolar and he's probably more ODD with Adhd. he's constantly in trouble at school and at home, he gets in moods where he's mean to everyone in his path and then it's over. there are days where his mood swings happen so frequently my head spins. his usual target is his older sister which he's gone after her with butcher knives in the past (put them up), last week he got mad at her and told her he was going to set a pen on fire and stick it in her eye. i have no idea where he gets these things or why she's his main target, otherwise they get along perfect. it's caused so many problems on the home front it's not funny. my husband and i have fought over it many times. difficult child sees a neurologis, psychiatris and counselor. he's been in a behavior hospital once this year so far. he's on a coctail of medications that some days don't seem to work at all but other days work perfect. his newest anger spell got me a nasty phone call from a mom down the street. he told her son that she was a fat cow (her son and mine were fighting) and she reacted like an 8 year old and got nasty with him. i understand where she was coming from but she called me and told me that if things didn't change in my house that she was going to call cps on me. i've talked to her in the past and told her all that we are doing for him, it's not like i'm not trying! difficult child had gotten mad at her again after she talked to him about calling her a fat cow because she told him he was not allowed down there for a couple of days and he rode by and called them all p****'s. i know it's not right, but he did it because he was mad. he's constantly in trouble for cussing, hitting other people, defiantly disobeying adults, arguing and destruction. i'm exhausted and don't know what else i can do and it doesn't help when people expect him to change and behave like their kids do. we do have an iep set up at school, but they are pretty much worthless about following up on it. he's set up to be evaluated through the school here in the next month also. i've done everything i can think of to do and it' s just not good enough for most people when they don't walk in your shoes or live in your house. i'm glad i found this forum so i have people that understand where i'm coming from and understand. thanks for listening to me babble.