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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 40630" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>Welcome! I am sorry you had to find us, but glad that you did! As small world said, "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene has been an EXTREMELY helpful resource to a lot of us. </p><p></p><p>I don't know a whole lot about the diagnosis you described, so I would have to do a little research before I could comment much, and even still, it would not be based on any personal experiences. I know with our difficult child that the "consequences" thing doesn't work so well unless they are NATURAL consequences. Such as you suggested, he broke the window, he should pay to have it replaced. See? You are already on the right track! As for adding another consequence on top of that, in my humble opinion it probably would not be very effective. Again, I don't know much about your son's conditions, but for the mindset of most of our difficult child's, this would not be helpful at all and if it isn't helping, there isn't much point in you enduring another weekend of hell at home because your son is upset that he is stuck inside. Because if your difficult child is anything like mine, he will spend the whole weekend finding not so friendly ways of making you miserable for punishing him. </p><p></p><p>But I can tell you that this board will be one of the best things you will ever find, the people here are wonderful and there is ALWAYS someone around to help and comfort you. We are all very non-judgemental, you will find that you can come here and let loose all the anger and frustration that you cannot show your child and no one will judge you because of it. I think we have all been at the end of our ropes on more than one occasion. This is never the situation a parent expects when they think about having children, but there is help and advice here, and there are people here who KNOW that it isn't because of "bad parenting" that we are in this place. </p><p></p><p>Again, welcome and sorry that you had to find us, but very glad you did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 40630, member: 3527"] Welcome! I am sorry you had to find us, but glad that you did! As small world said, "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene has been an EXTREMELY helpful resource to a lot of us. I don't know a whole lot about the diagnosis you described, so I would have to do a little research before I could comment much, and even still, it would not be based on any personal experiences. I know with our difficult child that the "consequences" thing doesn't work so well unless they are NATURAL consequences. Such as you suggested, he broke the window, he should pay to have it replaced. See? You are already on the right track! As for adding another consequence on top of that, in my humble opinion it probably would not be very effective. Again, I don't know much about your son's conditions, but for the mindset of most of our difficult child's, this would not be helpful at all and if it isn't helping, there isn't much point in you enduring another weekend of hell at home because your son is upset that he is stuck inside. Because if your difficult child is anything like mine, he will spend the whole weekend finding not so friendly ways of making you miserable for punishing him. But I can tell you that this board will be one of the best things you will ever find, the people here are wonderful and there is ALWAYS someone around to help and comfort you. We are all very non-judgemental, you will find that you can come here and let loose all the anger and frustration that you cannot show your child and no one will judge you because of it. I think we have all been at the end of our ropes on more than one occasion. This is never the situation a parent expects when they think about having children, but there is help and advice here, and there are people here who KNOW that it isn't because of "bad parenting" that we are in this place. Again, welcome and sorry that you had to find us, but very glad you did. [/QUOTE]
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