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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 338997" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>oh, yea....</p><p> </p><p>about the grounding part....just my .02, disregard if it isnt useful to <em>you</em>.</p><p> </p><p>find her "currency". everyone has something thats important to them. if she could care less about being sent to her room, then its really not an effective punishment anyway. when we've needed to punish, we take away things most people would think are odd....i've literally taken away drawing materials as a punishment, or removed the "book series" of the week as punishment, and so on. mine could care less about being forced to stay in, and even less so about being banished to her room (theres plenty to do there!). but she cares immensely about not having markers to work on her comics, or read whatever. i have to find something of importance *to her* to make my point.</p><p> </p><p>and i dont punish for ridiculous lengths of time for most offenses--she did recently have one MAJOR offense that got her the mother of all punishments of just about everything for a whole week, but thats rare. i try to go no more than a day or two....because mine tends to not even make the connection after a while. (i walk a very fine line with things that need discipline but happen in school....she's on the immature side to realize that if she puts her feet on the desk at 9am that the afterschool punishment from me has anything to do with 9am, Know what I mean?? for the most part, if i can, i let school discipline so the consequences are a direct result of the offense, if that made ANY sense!)</p><p> </p><p>i have to make it count. </p><p> </p><p>and she gets it, most of the time. she's not perfect even in typical behavior, and does need discipline. its taken a while for me to figure out what works for US.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 338997, member: 8831"] oh, yea.... about the grounding part....just my .02, disregard if it isnt useful to [I]you[/I]. find her "currency". everyone has something thats important to them. if she could care less about being sent to her room, then its really not an effective punishment anyway. when we've needed to punish, we take away things most people would think are odd....i've literally taken away drawing materials as a punishment, or removed the "book series" of the week as punishment, and so on. mine could care less about being forced to stay in, and even less so about being banished to her room (theres plenty to do there!). but she cares immensely about not having markers to work on her comics, or read whatever. i have to find something of importance *to her* to make my point. and i dont punish for ridiculous lengths of time for most offenses--she did recently have one MAJOR offense that got her the mother of all punishments of just about everything for a whole week, but thats rare. i try to go no more than a day or two....because mine tends to not even make the connection after a while. (i walk a very fine line with things that need discipline but happen in school....she's on the immature side to realize that if she puts her feet on the desk at 9am that the afterschool punishment from me has anything to do with 9am, Know what I mean?? for the most part, if i can, i let school discipline so the consequences are a direct result of the offense, if that made ANY sense!) i have to make it count. and she gets it, most of the time. she's not perfect even in typical behavior, and does need discipline. its taken a while for me to figure out what works for US. [/QUOTE]
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