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New to Group - Kicked out our 19 year old son (only child) today
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<blockquote data-quote="BKS" data-source="post: 557821" data-attributes="member: 15374"><p>Katyg,</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for what you have been going through and how painful it sounds. With three other children doing so well, you must let yourself feel kudos for doing the right things. Obviously, your troubled son is who he is, no matter where he was raised or by whom. We were struggling with substance addiction issues with our son several years ago and consulted our family doctor who was also our son's pediatrician. He explained that our son may simply 'be who he is' - that his great attraction to drugs and alcohol would find a way to express itself no matter what we did. (Neither my husband nor I drink except my husband has the occasional beer - about two a month.)</p><p></p><p>After battles over drugs, alcohol, behavior, etc. I reached a point last week where I knew I could take NO more. He had stolen money from us continually and I found he was walking around with my jewelry in his backpack, along with two of our bank statements. He had broken into our home (we made him leave during the day), broken into my laptop, and lied about any and everything imaginable. He was rude beyond belief and doing any drug he could get his hands on. All I know right now in my heart is that he CANNOT live at home again, ever. I have realized that my husband and I have done all we can. It is HARD to let go and a daily struggle for us but it HAS gotten better - as someone on this board assured me it would. We are expecting some tough times ahead because our son is a master manipulator but we are staying tough. I have decided at the age of 53 and 52 we have earned a peaceful life, after devoting the past 19+ to our son's happiness. From what I am reading Al-Anon and other rehab groups encourage family members to do the same.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. You have a lot of support here on the board - whatever your decision.</p><p></p><p>Best,</p><p>BKS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BKS, post: 557821, member: 15374"] Katyg, I am so sorry for what you have been going through and how painful it sounds. With three other children doing so well, you must let yourself feel kudos for doing the right things. Obviously, your troubled son is who he is, no matter where he was raised or by whom. We were struggling with substance addiction issues with our son several years ago and consulted our family doctor who was also our son's pediatrician. He explained that our son may simply 'be who he is' - that his great attraction to drugs and alcohol would find a way to express itself no matter what we did. (Neither my husband nor I drink except my husband has the occasional beer - about two a month.) After battles over drugs, alcohol, behavior, etc. I reached a point last week where I knew I could take NO more. He had stolen money from us continually and I found he was walking around with my jewelry in his backpack, along with two of our bank statements. He had broken into our home (we made him leave during the day), broken into my laptop, and lied about any and everything imaginable. He was rude beyond belief and doing any drug he could get his hands on. All I know right now in my heart is that he CANNOT live at home again, ever. I have realized that my husband and I have done all we can. It is HARD to let go and a daily struggle for us but it HAS gotten better - as someone on this board assured me it would. We are expecting some tough times ahead because our son is a master manipulator but we are staying tough. I have decided at the age of 53 and 52 we have earned a peaceful life, after devoting the past 19+ to our son's happiness. From what I am reading Al-Anon and other rehab groups encourage family members to do the same. My heart goes out to you. You have a lot of support here on the board - whatever your decision. Best, BKS [/QUOTE]
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