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<blockquote data-quote="ohio-step-dad" data-source="post: 429575" data-attributes="member: 11990"><p>He hasn't hurt my daughter but i can't say I haven't worried about it. And when we got together he was 6. I knew he had issues but figured by now we could get him straightened out together. I have known him since he was a baby. Mom and I were high school sweethearts and saw each other from time to time. I'm sure someone will say that has something to do with it also. I have only ever spanked him twice. And believe me, he has deserved it a lot more often than that. I was spanked. I was afraid to get spanked. So I didn't mouth off. I didn't skip school. I did my homework. I have done pretty well for myself the past 10 years and believe I owe everything to the way I was raised. Kids have all the cards these days. Everything I do, his father "disagrees" with. I make the kid get a haircut at 11 because he looked like a street hoodlum. Dad got angry. I take his cell phone. Dad gets angry. And to answer your question, I did not call the police after the threats because i honestly hoped he would show up. I sit down and do homework every night with him. If I don't understand it, I get online and figure it out so I can help him. I fix his bike. I play catch with him. I do everything his bum father is supposed to do and get crapped on every time I turn around. Kid says he wishes I didn't care so much so he wouldn't have to do well in school. He hates me for loving him and tells us quite often that he hates us. He has told his mom he wished she were dead several times. I swear, one or two good butt whoopin's would have him think twice before he opens his mouth. Unfortunately, society disagrees with me. So my hands are tied. I feel like I either give in or he is just going to make us all miserable for the next 6 years.</p><p>I refuse to let him be a bum like his dad. I refuse to let him turn 16 and drop out. I refuse to let him lay on my couch, watch my tv and eat my food then tell me he hates me, my house and my rules. Today he had me so angry, for a split second my mind told me going to jail was worth it. Go over and crack that kid a good one. I refrained and tried my hardest to stay calm and eventually it blew over. I know it isn't worth it. I know I am better than beating up a 12 year old. But what do we do when we get to that point? He knows i won't hurt him. He trusts I won't hit him. He pushes my buttons and says things like "what are you gonna do? Ground me?" Or my favorite, "You can't touch me, you'll go right to jail". His dad reported me for being abusive. Family services and the Sheriff both told me that I am within my rights to spank him on his butt. I still don't other than those two times. I feel like I am doing everything the way it should be done. I know I am a positive role model for him and I know in the future he will look up to me. But I don't think I can make it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ohio-step-dad, post: 429575, member: 11990"] He hasn't hurt my daughter but i can't say I haven't worried about it. And when we got together he was 6. I knew he had issues but figured by now we could get him straightened out together. I have known him since he was a baby. Mom and I were high school sweethearts and saw each other from time to time. I'm sure someone will say that has something to do with it also. I have only ever spanked him twice. And believe me, he has deserved it a lot more often than that. I was spanked. I was afraid to get spanked. So I didn't mouth off. I didn't skip school. I did my homework. I have done pretty well for myself the past 10 years and believe I owe everything to the way I was raised. Kids have all the cards these days. Everything I do, his father "disagrees" with. I make the kid get a haircut at 11 because he looked like a street hoodlum. Dad got angry. I take his cell phone. Dad gets angry. And to answer your question, I did not call the police after the threats because i honestly hoped he would show up. I sit down and do homework every night with him. If I don't understand it, I get online and figure it out so I can help him. I fix his bike. I play catch with him. I do everything his bum father is supposed to do and get crapped on every time I turn around. Kid says he wishes I didn't care so much so he wouldn't have to do well in school. He hates me for loving him and tells us quite often that he hates us. He has told his mom he wished she were dead several times. I swear, one or two good butt whoopin's would have him think twice before he opens his mouth. Unfortunately, society disagrees with me. So my hands are tied. I feel like I either give in or he is just going to make us all miserable for the next 6 years. I refuse to let him be a bum like his dad. I refuse to let him turn 16 and drop out. I refuse to let him lay on my couch, watch my tv and eat my food then tell me he hates me, my house and my rules. Today he had me so angry, for a split second my mind told me going to jail was worth it. Go over and crack that kid a good one. I refrained and tried my hardest to stay calm and eventually it blew over. I know it isn't worth it. I know I am better than beating up a 12 year old. But what do we do when we get to that point? He knows i won't hurt him. He trusts I won't hit him. He pushes my buttons and says things like "what are you gonna do? Ground me?" Or my favorite, "You can't touch me, you'll go right to jail". His dad reported me for being abusive. Family services and the Sheriff both told me that I am within my rights to spank him on his butt. I still don't other than those two times. I feel like I am doing everything the way it should be done. I know I am a positive role model for him and I know in the future he will look up to me. But I don't think I can make it. [/QUOTE]
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