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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 191999" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Turning,</p><p></p><p>" Instead of sucking it up and "oh, shucks!"-ing it, he must blame someone and then avenge against someone or something."</p><p></p><p>I was just talking about this with difficult child's therapist last week. The issue of "resilience" is not understood very well. What makes one person resilient and another totally unable to deal with life's problems in a consturctive and healthy manner. Take two individuals raised in the same family, my easy child and difficult child. easy child has the ability to accept life's difficulties and become stronger because of them. difficult child cannot accept any frustration, needs to have immediate gratification, and instead of roadblocks making her stronger, she gives into the frustrations and temptations and reacts in a negative way.</p><p></p><p>My father was an alcoholic. The chaos I grew up in was at times unbearable. I was determined I would get an education, make something of myself, and never ever allow that weakness to destroy my life and it hasn't, I was resileint. My difficult child grew up in the same environment as easy child, there are no addiction or defiance problems in the house and yet she is not resilient. She has been in trouble over and over and she has no resilience to overcome those problems.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 191999, member: 59"] Turning, " Instead of sucking it up and "oh, shucks!"-ing it, he must blame someone and then avenge against someone or something." I was just talking about this with difficult child's therapist last week. The issue of "resilience" is not understood very well. What makes one person resilient and another totally unable to deal with life's problems in a consturctive and healthy manner. Take two individuals raised in the same family, my easy child and difficult child. easy child has the ability to accept life's difficulties and become stronger because of them. difficult child cannot accept any frustration, needs to have immediate gratification, and instead of roadblocks making her stronger, she gives into the frustrations and temptations and reacts in a negative way. My father was an alcoholic. The chaos I grew up in was at times unbearable. I was determined I would get an education, make something of myself, and never ever allow that weakness to destroy my life and it hasn't, I was resileint. My difficult child grew up in the same environment as easy child, there are no addiction or defiance problems in the house and yet she is not resilient. She has been in trouble over and over and she has no resilience to overcome those problems. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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