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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 399821" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hi and Welcome! DF and the kids are lucky to have you in their lives to care so much! Does he have custody and do they live with him or with their mom or is it a 1/2 and 1/2 situation? How are they doing in school, both with studies and with the social aspects? That can be very telling about what problems they are dealing with.</p><p> </p><p>DF also needs to work with the school to put accommodations into place to help the kids. Our Sp Ed forum has archives with samples of the letters to send to the school that you can just put the names on. LEtters to request this MUST be sent certified mail via the post office with return receipt. It may seem "silly" to spend the money to do that, but it puts legal timelines onto evaluations and it protects the kids' legal rights. Keeping track of all of this can get overhwelming. I suggest helping DF create a Parent Report - the link in my sig at the bottom of this post will take you to the page that describes the Parent Report and has the outline for it. If he starts now it will make the future a LOT easier for him and teh kids because all the info will be in one place.</p><p> </p><p>PLEASE encourage a private Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory issues. Some people do not process input from their senses in the "normal" way. They may have trouble with picky eating, seeking or avoiding certain activities or textures, clothing (tags seem to be a problem for many people), etc... This CAN be helped and the help does NOT involve medication or long talk therapy. Often the therapy is enjoyable or even FUN because a big part is providing the types of sensation the kids would seek out - called providing a sensory diet. the other component is brushing therapy - must by taught by an Occupational Therapist (OT) but is fairly easy to do and many people enjoy it (now my kiddoes sometimes ask me to do it to help them go to sleep, lol). School will have an Occupational Therapist (OT) but they will only look for how this impacts school - a private Occupational Therapist (OT) will look at the child's entire life. My youngest was on his way to an Aspergers/ADHD diagnosis but in reality has Sensory Integration disorder instead. By treating it we were able to help him keep from learning/developing behaviors that would look more like autism/aspergers. In less than 2 years we went from not being able to sit through even half of a church service to singing in the choir and enjoying the entire service even sitting NEXT to the organ (the organ was a big problem before treatment started). </p><p> </p><p>ODD is often the first diagnosis, often followed by adhd. If you stop there with evaluations you will likely NOT be able to effectively help the child. Most of the kids who have parents here started with ODD and/or ADHD and later were found to have other problems - once the underlying problems were treated much of the ODD went away. ADHD is often a symptom of antoher problem, NOT the actual diagnosis. It is considered a separate disorder largely because it gets insurance to cover more and because it helps people understand it.</p><p> </p><p>I encourage you to read The Explosive Child by Ross Green and Love and Logic Parenting by Fay and Cline. both are incredibly helpful resources. You can learn more about L&L at <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 399821, member: 1233"] Hi and Welcome! DF and the kids are lucky to have you in their lives to care so much! Does he have custody and do they live with him or with their mom or is it a 1/2 and 1/2 situation? How are they doing in school, both with studies and with the social aspects? That can be very telling about what problems they are dealing with. DF also needs to work with the school to put accommodations into place to help the kids. Our Sp Ed forum has archives with samples of the letters to send to the school that you can just put the names on. LEtters to request this MUST be sent certified mail via the post office with return receipt. It may seem "silly" to spend the money to do that, but it puts legal timelines onto evaluations and it protects the kids' legal rights. Keeping track of all of this can get overhwelming. I suggest helping DF create a Parent Report - the link in my sig at the bottom of this post will take you to the page that describes the Parent Report and has the outline for it. If he starts now it will make the future a LOT easier for him and teh kids because all the info will be in one place. PLEASE encourage a private Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory issues. Some people do not process input from their senses in the "normal" way. They may have trouble with picky eating, seeking or avoiding certain activities or textures, clothing (tags seem to be a problem for many people), etc... This CAN be helped and the help does NOT involve medication or long talk therapy. Often the therapy is enjoyable or even FUN because a big part is providing the types of sensation the kids would seek out - called providing a sensory diet. the other component is brushing therapy - must by taught by an Occupational Therapist (OT) but is fairly easy to do and many people enjoy it (now my kiddoes sometimes ask me to do it to help them go to sleep, lol). School will have an Occupational Therapist (OT) but they will only look for how this impacts school - a private Occupational Therapist (OT) will look at the child's entire life. My youngest was on his way to an Aspergers/ADHD diagnosis but in reality has Sensory Integration disorder instead. By treating it we were able to help him keep from learning/developing behaviors that would look more like autism/aspergers. In less than 2 years we went from not being able to sit through even half of a church service to singing in the choir and enjoying the entire service even sitting NEXT to the organ (the organ was a big problem before treatment started). ODD is often the first diagnosis, often followed by adhd. If you stop there with evaluations you will likely NOT be able to effectively help the child. Most of the kids who have parents here started with ODD and/or ADHD and later were found to have other problems - once the underlying problems were treated much of the ODD went away. ADHD is often a symptom of antoher problem, NOT the actual diagnosis. It is considered a separate disorder largely because it gets insurance to cover more and because it helps people understand it. I encourage you to read The Explosive Child by Ross Green and Love and Logic Parenting by Fay and Cline. both are incredibly helpful resources. You can learn more about L&L at [URL="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]www.loveandlogic.com[/URL] . [/QUOTE]
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