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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 335857" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Neenee and welcome! Glad you found us.</p><p> </p><p>Given bio dad's history and your anxiety/depression, as well as my own bias based on life with- my kid <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />, I'm wondering if there's a mood disorder going on with- your daughter. The perpetual anger sure does sound like my son at that age - defiant, destructive, prickly, incredibly difficult to live with. I agree that a formal neuropsychologist evaluation (can be obtained at a Children's or university/teaching hospital) is in order. Who is prescribing her current medications and has any formal evaluation been done thus far? How was her early development? Did she talk early? Read early? How is she doing in school?</p><p> </p><p>I think counseling with the right therapist would be a good idea - your daughter may or may not get a whole lot out of it right now, but we certainly found it very helpful in terms of getting ideas for how to manage our son's behaviors. Parenting a difficult child is a real challenge and I know that at one point I was so stuck in just trying to survive the day, I couldn't even begin to think rationally about what might be a more effective way to deal with him - that's where the therapist really came in handy.</p><p> </p><p>Actually, I think crushing cans is a good idea if she'll do it, but my kid was breaking windows and kicking holes in the walls when he raged at that age, so... it's all relative <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> . At 7, she's really just so young and I'm not sure developmentally any 7-year-old could express why she's angry.</p><p> </p><p>The one thing that really help me deal with- the behaviors at this age was learning not to react emotionally. I used to be a screamer, and when I blew up it was like pouring gas on a fire for my kid. When I started to keep an even temper (oh, so hard to do at first) and not holler, kept my voice and facial expression and body language neutral, it really did help keep my son's rages from escalating as frequently.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, just some thoughts. Again, welcome and I'm glad you found us!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 335857, member: 8"] Hi Neenee and welcome! Glad you found us. Given bio dad's history and your anxiety/depression, as well as my own bias based on life with- my kid ;), I'm wondering if there's a mood disorder going on with- your daughter. The perpetual anger sure does sound like my son at that age - defiant, destructive, prickly, incredibly difficult to live with. I agree that a formal neuropsychologist evaluation (can be obtained at a Children's or university/teaching hospital) is in order. Who is prescribing her current medications and has any formal evaluation been done thus far? How was her early development? Did she talk early? Read early? How is she doing in school? I think counseling with the right therapist would be a good idea - your daughter may or may not get a whole lot out of it right now, but we certainly found it very helpful in terms of getting ideas for how to manage our son's behaviors. Parenting a difficult child is a real challenge and I know that at one point I was so stuck in just trying to survive the day, I couldn't even begin to think rationally about what might be a more effective way to deal with him - that's where the therapist really came in handy. Actually, I think crushing cans is a good idea if she'll do it, but my kid was breaking windows and kicking holes in the walls when he raged at that age, so... it's all relative ;) . At 7, she's really just so young and I'm not sure developmentally any 7-year-old could express why she's angry. The one thing that really help me deal with- the behaviors at this age was learning not to react emotionally. I used to be a screamer, and when I blew up it was like pouring gas on a fire for my kid. When I started to keep an even temper (oh, so hard to do at first) and not holler, kept my voice and facial expression and body language neutral, it really did help keep my son's rages from escalating as frequently. Anyway, just some thoughts. Again, welcome and I'm glad you found us! [/QUOTE]
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