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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 88870" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok. Here goes.</p><p>I would take this child to a neuropsychologist--nobody else. I would want to know if he shows any signs of fetal alcohol issues because those kids tend to be way out of control and often show no consciences. Alcohol affects mean organic brain damage and often the kids end up in jail, and they definitely need caregiving by professionals to keep themselves out of trouble, even as adults. They don't understand right from wrong and are often puzzled that they are in jail and "forgot" how they got there the first time so they offend again, doing the same thing. Often they are mistaken as ADHD because they are so hyper. They really don't know how. I'm sure there are attachment issues also thrown in there. Are there psychiatric problems or substance abuse issues on the family tree? Could he have bipolar disorder? Doesn't sound like he is being properly medicated for a violent kid.</p><p></p><p>I can tell you right now that a social worker we got very close to when we adopted one child told us out-and-out they they are deliberately elusive about diagnoses of the kids. They are apt to call everything ADHD because anything else scares off prospective parents. I don't know if it's true, but that's what she told us, and it seemed true in our cases. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) also rarely stands by itself and Conduct Disorder can be undiagnosed bipolar or untreated high functional autism OR fetal alcohol syndrome. You have your hands full and may never find out the big picture. It would be great if these foster kids were given the proper time and good diagnosing and treatment, but they're not and the parents have to do it. </p><p></p><p>In the case of our scary adopted son, he had to go. My two younger kids (also adopted) hated and feared him and felt guilty for the abuse HE inflicted on them. We did what we felt was best for our family. And he didn't miss us ONE BIT. Never cried for us. His only regret was he liked the money we gave him and was bummed that in the special Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for young sexual predators that they took him to, we didn't send him any cash. We gave him the items we had bought him already, but that was it. He scared US too. To this day, we wonder with dread if we'll see him again and if he'll try to kill everyone if we do see him. He has aged out of the system and is on his own. My consolation is that we moved and are unlisted and he has no idea where to find us. Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 88870, member: 1550"] Ok. Here goes. I would take this child to a neuropsychologist--nobody else. I would want to know if he shows any signs of fetal alcohol issues because those kids tend to be way out of control and often show no consciences. Alcohol affects mean organic brain damage and often the kids end up in jail, and they definitely need caregiving by professionals to keep themselves out of trouble, even as adults. They don't understand right from wrong and are often puzzled that they are in jail and "forgot" how they got there the first time so they offend again, doing the same thing. Often they are mistaken as ADHD because they are so hyper. They really don't know how. I'm sure there are attachment issues also thrown in there. Are there psychiatric problems or substance abuse issues on the family tree? Could he have bipolar disorder? Doesn't sound like he is being properly medicated for a violent kid. I can tell you right now that a social worker we got very close to when we adopted one child told us out-and-out they they are deliberately elusive about diagnoses of the kids. They are apt to call everything ADHD because anything else scares off prospective parents. I don't know if it's true, but that's what she told us, and it seemed true in our cases. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) also rarely stands by itself and Conduct Disorder can be undiagnosed bipolar or untreated high functional autism OR fetal alcohol syndrome. You have your hands full and may never find out the big picture. It would be great if these foster kids were given the proper time and good diagnosing and treatment, but they're not and the parents have to do it. In the case of our scary adopted son, he had to go. My two younger kids (also adopted) hated and feared him and felt guilty for the abuse HE inflicted on them. We did what we felt was best for our family. And he didn't miss us ONE BIT. Never cried for us. His only regret was he liked the money we gave him and was bummed that in the special Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for young sexual predators that they took him to, we didn't send him any cash. We gave him the items we had bought him already, but that was it. He scared US too. To this day, we wonder with dread if we'll see him again and if he'll try to kill everyone if we do see him. He has aged out of the system and is on his own. My consolation is that we moved and are unlisted and he has no idea where to find us. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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