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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 339494" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi tvick and welcome!</p><p></p><p>If you could do a signature like the ones at the bottom of the other posters' threads (see <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=8399" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=8399</a>), it would really help us keep your particulars straight. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> At this stage of life, I have a hard time remember my *kids'* particulars. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /></p><p></p><p>I absolutely agree with- getting a neuropsychologist evaluation. We all bring our particular biases to the board based on our experiences, but having a violent young kiddo who needed physical restraint raises the flag to me for a mood disorder (only because that was our life with thank you from age 4-9 at home and it continued when he was in RTCs). </p><p></p><p>thank you was extremely violent and absolutely, our other children suffered. One of the best things I did (with this board's tutoring) was come up with- a safety plan for when he would rage. My oldest also has CP and is very severely involved. While thank you only specifically went after him physically once, oldest usually was in the line of fire when lamps and other objects started flying. My younger two kids were 6 and 2 at the time. The safety plan was as soon as thank you started to escalate, I would roll oldest into my bedroom, the 6 y/o would get the 2 y/o and head into my bedroom, and the door would get closed. There was a TV in our room and we kept some toys in there for the younger 2 kids. In hindsight, it was a lot to put on my 6 y/o but... we do what we have to do and the priority has to be safety. The safety plan didn't protect the kids from the vile verbal junk that thank you would spew but... at least they weren't in physical danger. </p><p></p><p>I absolutely agree with- the concept of tag-team parenting. I would deal with- whatever until I was a hair away from losing it, and then husband would step in. We cannot be "on" 24/7 and stay sane. It took some practice for us but eventually it just became second nature to step in and pick up where the other left off. </p><p></p><p>We have never lived near family and between oldest's needs and thank you's behaviors, there was absolutely no way we could ever get someone in so husband and I could have a "date" (last one was over 15 years ago!). We improvised. Played cards together after kids went to bed, watched movies together... little stuff, but it was time that was just for us, Sue and husband, not Mom and Dad. It's so important to nurture that relationship, but even more so when you have kids with- special needs. </p><p></p><p>Does your son have an IEP? Are you still fighting the homework battle at home? How is he doing academically? </p><p></p><p>Again, welcome and I'm so glad you found us!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 339494, member: 8"] Hi tvick and welcome! If you could do a signature like the ones at the bottom of the other posters' threads (see [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=8399[/url]), it would really help us keep your particulars straight. ;) At this stage of life, I have a hard time remember my *kids'* particulars. :rofl: I absolutely agree with- getting a neuropsychologist evaluation. We all bring our particular biases to the board based on our experiences, but having a violent young kiddo who needed physical restraint raises the flag to me for a mood disorder (only because that was our life with thank you from age 4-9 at home and it continued when he was in RTCs). thank you was extremely violent and absolutely, our other children suffered. One of the best things I did (with this board's tutoring) was come up with- a safety plan for when he would rage. My oldest also has CP and is very severely involved. While thank you only specifically went after him physically once, oldest usually was in the line of fire when lamps and other objects started flying. My younger two kids were 6 and 2 at the time. The safety plan was as soon as thank you started to escalate, I would roll oldest into my bedroom, the 6 y/o would get the 2 y/o and head into my bedroom, and the door would get closed. There was a TV in our room and we kept some toys in there for the younger 2 kids. In hindsight, it was a lot to put on my 6 y/o but... we do what we have to do and the priority has to be safety. The safety plan didn't protect the kids from the vile verbal junk that thank you would spew but... at least they weren't in physical danger. I absolutely agree with- the concept of tag-team parenting. I would deal with- whatever until I was a hair away from losing it, and then husband would step in. We cannot be "on" 24/7 and stay sane. It took some practice for us but eventually it just became second nature to step in and pick up where the other left off. We have never lived near family and between oldest's needs and thank you's behaviors, there was absolutely no way we could ever get someone in so husband and I could have a "date" (last one was over 15 years ago!). We improvised. Played cards together after kids went to bed, watched movies together... little stuff, but it was time that was just for us, Sue and husband, not Mom and Dad. It's so important to nurture that relationship, but even more so when you have kids with- special needs. Does your son have an IEP? Are you still fighting the homework battle at home? How is he doing academically? Again, welcome and I'm so glad you found us! [/QUOTE]
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