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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 29087" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>Hi Mikey, Wanted to welcome you to this awesome site, You will find that many here have dealt with a difficult teen. You can get some great advice here. My difficult child would be the reason as to why I found this site. I can tell you that I have yet to ever find another site that would even compare to this one. The members here are very supportive and do not hesitate to share their thoughts and encouragement and advice based on what they have already been through and more. I discovered that my difficult child was smoking pot and drinking back in 2005, She too lost interest in everything that she typically enjoyed and just blew off any rules that I had in place, Coming home at her convenience and failing in school. She never did have the opportunity to steal things because I pretty much had the valubles locked up. In my case I also had a curfew time set for her but when she started blowing it off I informed her that if she was not home at the curfew time that I would be calling the police and report her as missing. She complied at first but shortley thereafter I was calling the police and making missing reports. Part of the reason why I started calling the police was to get a papertrail started by the local police to use later if needed. I to found out that I needed to request that they make a written report to be filed. I also started drug testing her on a random basis with the understanding that she would face consequences if she should test positive. and told her that if I ever found drugs of any type in our home that I would be calling the police and reporting her. Recently I discovered that she valued trolling the streets with her friends and lost a great job because of it and also found out that she has opted to not go to school. She turned 18 in Dec so legally there is nothing that I can do about it. She knows the rules, Continue her education, No drug or alcohol use, Be home at a certain time to remain in my home. On March 6th she decided that she did not have to go to school so I told her to find another place to live. As far as I know she is living on the streets and word has it she is now doing Meth. Yes I am devastated that she has chosen to make bad choices and she has been given the opportunity to get treatment in order for her to become a drug free productive citizen but she opted not to go that route. She has never exibited violence or disrespect in the home like your difficult child using his finger although she was very good at just blowing me off when expected to do simple tasks around the home. As far as detaching? Its really hard but I believe I have it mastered to the point that I am not allowing the wicked thoughts of her safety and well being consume my every minute thoughts. I figure if it were the other way around I would be a basket case and in no way be level headed enough to care for her brother that is severely disabled and requires hands on for his every need. I guess I am just waiting for her to crash or get arrested with the hopes that it would be a huge wake-up call for her to get the desperately needed help she needs. This tough love thing is very hard to pull off but I know that I cannot allow myself to enable her in any way and have concluded that I am in no way responsible for her bad choices. I am glad that you have found this site and even more glad that you have seen improvement with your difficult child along with him surviving the episode in the ER. Hopefully that was truly a wake up call for him to choose another road (A positive one).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 29087, member: 2727"] Hi Mikey, Wanted to welcome you to this awesome site, You will find that many here have dealt with a difficult teen. You can get some great advice here. My difficult child would be the reason as to why I found this site. I can tell you that I have yet to ever find another site that would even compare to this one. The members here are very supportive and do not hesitate to share their thoughts and encouragement and advice based on what they have already been through and more. I discovered that my difficult child was smoking pot and drinking back in 2005, She too lost interest in everything that she typically enjoyed and just blew off any rules that I had in place, Coming home at her convenience and failing in school. She never did have the opportunity to steal things because I pretty much had the valubles locked up. In my case I also had a curfew time set for her but when she started blowing it off I informed her that if she was not home at the curfew time that I would be calling the police and report her as missing. She complied at first but shortley thereafter I was calling the police and making missing reports. Part of the reason why I started calling the police was to get a papertrail started by the local police to use later if needed. I to found out that I needed to request that they make a written report to be filed. I also started drug testing her on a random basis with the understanding that she would face consequences if she should test positive. and told her that if I ever found drugs of any type in our home that I would be calling the police and reporting her. Recently I discovered that she valued trolling the streets with her friends and lost a great job because of it and also found out that she has opted to not go to school. She turned 18 in Dec so legally there is nothing that I can do about it. She knows the rules, Continue her education, No drug or alcohol use, Be home at a certain time to remain in my home. On March 6th she decided that she did not have to go to school so I told her to find another place to live. As far as I know she is living on the streets and word has it she is now doing Meth. Yes I am devastated that she has chosen to make bad choices and she has been given the opportunity to get treatment in order for her to become a drug free productive citizen but she opted not to go that route. She has never exibited violence or disrespect in the home like your difficult child using his finger although she was very good at just blowing me off when expected to do simple tasks around the home. As far as detaching? Its really hard but I believe I have it mastered to the point that I am not allowing the wicked thoughts of her safety and well being consume my every minute thoughts. I figure if it were the other way around I would be a basket case and in no way be level headed enough to care for her brother that is severely disabled and requires hands on for his every need. I guess I am just waiting for her to crash or get arrested with the hopes that it would be a huge wake-up call for her to get the desperately needed help she needs. This tough love thing is very hard to pull off but I know that I cannot allow myself to enable her in any way and have concluded that I am in no way responsible for her bad choices. I am glad that you have found this site and even more glad that you have seen improvement with your difficult child along with him surviving the episode in the ER. Hopefully that was truly a wake up call for him to choose another road (A positive one). [/QUOTE]
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