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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 29155" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Nope, you're right, eggshells it is for both me and my wonderful, warrior mom wife. But that was by design, in concert with his therapist. We started off with three goals: try to get him to take an interest in his future (and do something about it), try to get him to see the damage he's doing by abusing drugs and living the stoner lifestyle, and (c) try to get him to re-engage in the family and start rebuilding a loving, mutually beneficial and mutually respectful relationship.</p><p></p><p>We made a decision that the life skills issue (first one) was most important, because at the time he was running away and likely to hit the streets on his own. So when he actually responded to a "change of venue, i.e alternative ed HS and specialized program in Graphic Design, we thought "Great!" He even wants to get his diploma, which is a good "first start" life goal. </p><p></p><p>So, we walked on eggshells to keep him on the road to improvement in this area. Even if he doesn't stop with the pot, and even if he completely trashes his relationship with us, at least he's back on a path to self sufficiency beyond the soup kitchen and the local Salvation Army shelter. And that's the most important thing to us.</p><p></p><p>Still working on the second issue, pot smoking. Fortunately, uptill last week that was all he was doing. <em>Unfortunately</em>, he almost died from an asthma attack last Wednesday, and has had to stop smoking EVERYTHING. Put him on Chantrix, and that's helping <strong>loads</strong> with the cigs (smoke free for over a week, no cravings). He says no pot, either. But now the worry is that he'll move to something else for a high, and while pot's not good, it's definitely the least harmful of the various drugs of choice around this part of the country.</p><p></p><p>Come to think of it, not being able to smoke pot may be why he's so dadgum grouchy and acting out! Doh!</p><p></p><p>It's only been in the last few days that we've tried to work on the third issue, reintegration with the family. Tried to have an "intervention" brokered by his therapist on Tuesday where we would try to meet somewhere in the middle; he gets something, we get somthing, and we all claim some form of victory. THAT went over like skinheads parading in Compton. But I'm willing to back off a bit to keep him moving forward in other areas. It hurts, but I'd rather see him leave hating us but able to take care of himself than push for the total package and lose him completely.</p><p></p><p>Guess I'll see how that works out. Oh, and I'll be investing in whatever pharma company that makes my anti-anxiety medications and prozac - they're going to get a LOT of my money over the next 18 months :wink:</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 29155, member: 3579"] Nope, you're right, eggshells it is for both me and my wonderful, warrior mom wife. But that was by design, in concert with his therapist. We started off with three goals: try to get him to take an interest in his future (and do something about it), try to get him to see the damage he's doing by abusing drugs and living the stoner lifestyle, and (c) try to get him to re-engage in the family and start rebuilding a loving, mutually beneficial and mutually respectful relationship. We made a decision that the life skills issue (first one) was most important, because at the time he was running away and likely to hit the streets on his own. So when he actually responded to a "change of venue, i.e alternative ed HS and specialized program in Graphic Design, we thought "Great!" He even wants to get his diploma, which is a good "first start" life goal. So, we walked on eggshells to keep him on the road to improvement in this area. Even if he doesn't stop with the pot, and even if he completely trashes his relationship with us, at least he's back on a path to self sufficiency beyond the soup kitchen and the local Salvation Army shelter. And that's the most important thing to us. Still working on the second issue, pot smoking. Fortunately, uptill last week that was all he was doing. [i]Unfortunately[/i], he almost died from an asthma attack last Wednesday, and has had to stop smoking EVERYTHING. Put him on Chantrix, and that's helping [b]loads[/b] with the cigs (smoke free for over a week, no cravings). He says no pot, either. But now the worry is that he'll move to something else for a high, and while pot's not good, it's definitely the least harmful of the various drugs of choice around this part of the country. Come to think of it, not being able to smoke pot may be why he's so dadgum grouchy and acting out! Doh! It's only been in the last few days that we've tried to work on the third issue, reintegration with the family. Tried to have an "intervention" brokered by his therapist on Tuesday where we would try to meet somewhere in the middle; he gets something, we get somthing, and we all claim some form of victory. THAT went over like skinheads parading in Compton. But I'm willing to back off a bit to keep him moving forward in other areas. It hurts, but I'd rather see him leave hating us but able to take care of himself than push for the total package and lose him completely. Guess I'll see how that works out. Oh, and I'll be investing in whatever pharma company that makes my anti-anxiety medications and prozac - they're going to get a LOT of my money over the next 18 months [img]:wink:[/img] Mikey [/QUOTE]
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