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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 141285" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Hi and welcome! I've so been in your shoes except mine is a girl and only one and, fortunately, no BiPolar (BP) diagnosis, "just" Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). It took almost two years at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to get mine under control. Prior to the placement, I would have been surprised if she wasn't in jail for a serious crime before she even reached adulthood.</p><p> </p><p>Things are not perfect today, but she's not drugging, drinking, stealing. She's not 100&#37; honest but no teen is (even if she is no longer a teen, her behavior screams teendom to me). Sadly, she is a high school dropout, still subject to temper tantrums and rages, her sense of entitlement is well above average. On the plus side, she is holding down a fulltime job, getting ready to move into her first apartment, making some real decisions.</p><p> </p><p>Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids are tough. If you were to give me a choice, I'd take a kid with BiPolar (BP) over one with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) any day of the week. Who knows, maybe some of the BiPolar (BP) medications will help with some of the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) actions. For your sake, I hope so.</p><p> </p><p>Six months isn't nearly long enough to do much for a kid with major behavior problems. It takes many years to learn the behavior a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child believes will help them survive. It takes more than a few months to change that. A good Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) adolescent needs to temper love with very stiff, concrete consequences. It needs to not buy into the "poor little me" talks, which can be difficult because these kids are so dang good at manipulation.</p><p> </p><p>I hope you can find a way to help your son. I know how hard this is. He obviously cannot live at home given his present behaviors. Finding a good fit for him and his issues is difficult, especially since his level of violence is so extreme.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 141285, member: 3626"] Hi and welcome! I've so been in your shoes except mine is a girl and only one and, fortunately, no BiPolar (BP) diagnosis, "just" Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). It took almost two years at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to get mine under control. Prior to the placement, I would have been surprised if she wasn't in jail for a serious crime before she even reached adulthood. Things are not perfect today, but she's not drugging, drinking, stealing. She's not 100% honest but no teen is (even if she is no longer a teen, her behavior screams teendom to me). Sadly, she is a high school dropout, still subject to temper tantrums and rages, her sense of entitlement is well above average. On the plus side, she is holding down a fulltime job, getting ready to move into her first apartment, making some real decisions. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids are tough. If you were to give me a choice, I'd take a kid with BiPolar (BP) over one with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) any day of the week. Who knows, maybe some of the BiPolar (BP) medications will help with some of the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) actions. For your sake, I hope so. Six months isn't nearly long enough to do much for a kid with major behavior problems. It takes many years to learn the behavior a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child believes will help them survive. It takes more than a few months to change that. A good Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) adolescent needs to temper love with very stiff, concrete consequences. It needs to not buy into the "poor little me" talks, which can be difficult because these kids are so dang good at manipulation. I hope you can find a way to help your son. I know how hard this is. He obviously cannot live at home given his present behaviors. Finding a good fit for him and his issues is difficult, especially since his level of violence is so extreme. [/QUOTE]
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