New to this site and hoping it will help

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by hilarity, Jan 5, 2008.

  1. hilarity

    hilarity New Member

    Just found this site and hoping it will help. Single parent of soon to be 18 year old. No longer on ADHD medication beause dr. doesn't think it is helping him. Has been on since elementary school. I have tried Psychologists, Psychotherapists, etc. I feel like I am loosing my mind anymore. He is trouble with the law, failing school and so horribly abusive in the way he treats me any suggestions on how to keep my head above water?
  2. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Just a quick welcome, Hilarity. I have company due any second and biscuits in the oven. You will hear soon from people who have been in your shoes and thoroughly understand your feelings.

    Later, DDD
  3. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Hi Hilarity, welcome to the board!

    Let me help you get more recognition with your post. First, go to the FAQ section (if you would be so kind) and make out a signature for yourself. It will come up every time you post, and that way we can all get to know you.

    You did not mention whether your child had an issue with drugs or alcohol. I am assuming that he/she does not. This forum is for teens with addictions. A few forums down is the Parent Emetrius forum, that is for parents of teens and adult "difficult child" (what we lovingly call our gifts from God). I would suggest reposting your question there; you are bound to get a lot more responses.

    I will tell you (and you won't want to hear it) that since your child is just about 18, there is very little you can do. Once they are 18, you cannot make them do anything that they do not want to. However you have full say so over your dwelling. Your home, your rules. Once the child is 18, you can (and are well within your rights to) kick the kid out if your rules are not followed. It is tough love, and sometimes the only way some of these kids learn. The parent emetrius forum deals a lot with detaching and boundries.

    You found a safe place to land. Again, welcome.
  4. hilarity

    hilarity New Member

    Thanks for the direction and kind words!