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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 428991" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Can you say a little more about the family background? Is he your biological child or adopted? Is there anything in his history that may account for some of his aggression and frustration?</p><p>I agree - this "disruptive behaviour disorder" sounds broad. Too broad. Just sounds like someone who doesn't know what it is labelling his behaviour and sticking "disorder" on the end! </p><p>I'm becoming fairly widely read on ADHD since that is almost certainly (I have now accepted!) what my son has. I am not sure that ADHD children are inherently aggressive - they have poor impulse control, of course, which sometimes leads to the same thing... not inbiting the impulsive reaction. Is your son aggressive/violent at home? Does he have siblings and if so, how is he with them? </p><p>My son is also sweet, has good eye contact, very social. He also has big temper tantrums and is kind of "para-aggressive" much of the time - his favourite play is mock fighting and his relationship with his (same age) best friend at school seems rather conflictual - they are like stormy lovers, constantly having tiffs and then making up. He seems, though, to have a sense of "which side his bread is buttered" and has some sense of what he can and can't get away with. He is sometimes aggressive (less now) with me, and certainly shouts and screams at home, but does not do these things at school where I think he knows or senses that he could not get away with it. It's partly also to do with the structure - he responds well to a very structured environment, which school is.</p><p>So I am just wondering what similarities there may be with your son. Is one of the "problems" that the school environment is not structured enough to contain him? Presumably kindergarten in the States (presuming too that that is where you are) is more structured. What is his level of intelligence, do you think he may have any learning difficulties? I am also discovering that ADHD often goes along with learning difficulties. This may be a factor in disruptive behaviour. My son is in an atypical environment of a tiny school where the teacher (who doesn't for the moment think there is anything "wrong" with him, so he is not yet being specially helped) can spend lots of time alone with him. I don't know what your possibilities are but if there is ANY chance of your son being in a smaller school environment, do consider it seriously. The research shows that ADHD always do better in small classes - it's only logical. </p><p>And the other suggestions of seeing psychiatrists, etc are of course sensible. If he is ADHD, perhaps with the famous ODD with it, you need to start getting it identified and helped. As for medications - I am not the one to ask! I don't want my son to go on medications if we can make a manageable life without that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 428991, member: 11227"] Can you say a little more about the family background? Is he your biological child or adopted? Is there anything in his history that may account for some of his aggression and frustration? I agree - this "disruptive behaviour disorder" sounds broad. Too broad. Just sounds like someone who doesn't know what it is labelling his behaviour and sticking "disorder" on the end! I'm becoming fairly widely read on ADHD since that is almost certainly (I have now accepted!) what my son has. I am not sure that ADHD children are inherently aggressive - they have poor impulse control, of course, which sometimes leads to the same thing... not inbiting the impulsive reaction. Is your son aggressive/violent at home? Does he have siblings and if so, how is he with them? My son is also sweet, has good eye contact, very social. He also has big temper tantrums and is kind of "para-aggressive" much of the time - his favourite play is mock fighting and his relationship with his (same age) best friend at school seems rather conflictual - they are like stormy lovers, constantly having tiffs and then making up. He seems, though, to have a sense of "which side his bread is buttered" and has some sense of what he can and can't get away with. He is sometimes aggressive (less now) with me, and certainly shouts and screams at home, but does not do these things at school where I think he knows or senses that he could not get away with it. It's partly also to do with the structure - he responds well to a very structured environment, which school is. So I am just wondering what similarities there may be with your son. Is one of the "problems" that the school environment is not structured enough to contain him? Presumably kindergarten in the States (presuming too that that is where you are) is more structured. What is his level of intelligence, do you think he may have any learning difficulties? I am also discovering that ADHD often goes along with learning difficulties. This may be a factor in disruptive behaviour. My son is in an atypical environment of a tiny school where the teacher (who doesn't for the moment think there is anything "wrong" with him, so he is not yet being specially helped) can spend lots of time alone with him. I don't know what your possibilities are but if there is ANY chance of your son being in a smaller school environment, do consider it seriously. The research shows that ADHD always do better in small classes - it's only logical. And the other suggestions of seeing psychiatrists, etc are of course sensible. If he is ADHD, perhaps with the famous ODD with it, you need to start getting it identified and helped. As for medications - I am not the one to ask! I don't want my son to go on medications if we can make a manageable life without that. [/QUOTE]
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