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<blockquote data-quote="Tearna" data-source="post: 374782"><p>Thank you all for the warm welcome. </p><p> </p><p>Recent Update*</p><p> </p><p>The past 3 days I have been down with the flu, day 1 Daddy was a life saver but with him working nights he didn't get to sleep much. Due to the economy he can't just call off work. So this was not an option for us. However he did his best to help and I begged Grandma to take him for day 2. </p><p> </p><p>On day 2 at Grandma's she told me he was great, they had a few run ins but he kept her busy and she liked it. On the morning of day 3 he came home.</p><p> </p><p>Day 3 was a pretty good day, I was still pretty sick and couldn't do much for the tantrums so we did our best to do activities that helped to avoid them. husband gave me a break till he had to sleep for work. The rest of the day went pretty smooth til bed time, he wouldn't go to bed, woke his brother (the baby) several times Daddy even got up and tried to get him to go to bed but we lost and I stayed up till 1 am and finally he dozed off. </p><p> </p><p>Day 4 (that's today, yesterday if you go by the clock but still today to me.) The day started off pretty good. We went to Walmart and we have made a pact with DS that if he behaves in Walmart he can get a toy. We made a fatal mistake (cause we are still learning) and went to the toy area first. This resulted in 1 hour of looking at all the different toys he could get and him playing a game we call "Change-a-Rooni" Where he wants this one then that one and then the one over there...Daddy wasn't much help as he was very happy to carefully select and inspect every remote control car, Hotwheel, and Dump truck Walmart had on display. The screaming began.....Still playing "Change-a-Rooni" Finally I looked at DS and I said "I will leave the toy area, you will get no toy and you can scream all the way through Walmart while mommy does her shopping." I don't talk down to him I scrunch down and look him in the face. He stopped.....I felt like I won some kind of war. And Daddy showed him 2 toys....a remote control car $12.97 and a Hotwheels $3.97. Of course he picked the remote control one but we got the hotwheels one anyway for future use.Things went well the rest of the day. Then came dinner....Toys do not come to the dinner table. Trying to explain this to DS was a little difficult and the way was back on. I took the RC car and put it out of his reach and told him he could have it <strong>IF</strong> he tried one bite of his dinner. It was a new meal so I figured it's not fair to make him eat it if he doesn't like it. I think we fought about an hour. This includes the hitting, biting (the new skill he has learned) punching, kicking, screaming and throwing. Each time I would pick him up, take him to his bed lay him down, pin him down if needed and explain to him that he needed to calm down and then he could come out. That didn't go so well for awhile but after time he would calm down and come out. He tried to throw his food at me once, that didn't go as he planned, he went back to his bed, me carrying him like I do the baby (other then holding his hands so I didn't get hit in the face). In the end he came out, took a bite of his food then asked for his car, which I gave him, it was the deal we had made. He didn't eat anymore. I left his plate on the table in hopes he might change his mind. An hour later he wanted some chocolate milk, I refused because he had not really tried his dinner, so he picked up a few pieces and stuck it in his mouth. So he got some chocolate milk. Then off to his car again...</p><p> </p><p>It was a nice time after that till bed time rolled around and we fought about that a little. Normally he is allowed to take a new toy to bed. I don't mind as my goal is to get him to lay quietly on his bed. New car in hand he climbed into bed. I don't even think it was 5 mins later he was out of bed, naked and playing on the floor. This happened a few times and finally I told him, "New car needs to go nite nite so it can recharge or it wont work anymore." He didn't fight much as I took it out of the room and nothing was heard about it after. I expected a war, I got none. Maybe 15 mins after that he was sleeping. </p><p> </p><p>I am thanking my lucky stars he has been so good but I'm wondering if it's ADHD he might have or if there is anything wrong with him at all? I'm just so confused, is he a typical child just trying to find his voice and place in the world?</p><p> </p><p>We have one of those vinyl mattress cases for his mattress. He sleeps on the bottom bunk of a bunk bed. I do have an older son that comes into town during the summer. He has not been here in a few weeks. </p><p> </p><p>I also wonder you say your son doesn't like his face wet. DS will stick his face in the water but freaks if I pour it over his head, I try laying him back but he fights and I don't want to scare him. Any suggestions?</p><p> </p><p>Thank you all again, you at least have a concept of what I might be dealing with and it is good to read, get ideas and in some cases leave stories that you all can gather something from. Sometimes I feel like I am just going insane. In my world no one seems to see anything of what I go through. At least some of you might have been here where I am now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tearna, post: 374782"] Thank you all for the warm welcome. Recent Update* The past 3 days I have been down with the flu, day 1 Daddy was a life saver but with him working nights he didn't get to sleep much. Due to the economy he can't just call off work. So this was not an option for us. However he did his best to help and I begged Grandma to take him for day 2. On day 2 at Grandma's she told me he was great, they had a few run ins but he kept her busy and she liked it. On the morning of day 3 he came home. Day 3 was a pretty good day, I was still pretty sick and couldn't do much for the tantrums so we did our best to do activities that helped to avoid them. husband gave me a break till he had to sleep for work. The rest of the day went pretty smooth til bed time, he wouldn't go to bed, woke his brother (the baby) several times Daddy even got up and tried to get him to go to bed but we lost and I stayed up till 1 am and finally he dozed off. Day 4 (that's today, yesterday if you go by the clock but still today to me.) The day started off pretty good. We went to Walmart and we have made a pact with DS that if he behaves in Walmart he can get a toy. We made a fatal mistake (cause we are still learning) and went to the toy area first. This resulted in 1 hour of looking at all the different toys he could get and him playing a game we call "Change-a-Rooni" Where he wants this one then that one and then the one over there...Daddy wasn't much help as he was very happy to carefully select and inspect every remote control car, Hotwheel, and Dump truck Walmart had on display. The screaming began.....Still playing "Change-a-Rooni" Finally I looked at DS and I said "I will leave the toy area, you will get no toy and you can scream all the way through Walmart while mommy does her shopping." I don't talk down to him I scrunch down and look him in the face. He stopped.....I felt like I won some kind of war. And Daddy showed him 2 toys....a remote control car $12.97 and a Hotwheels $3.97. Of course he picked the remote control one but we got the hotwheels one anyway for future use.Things went well the rest of the day. Then came dinner....Toys do not come to the dinner table. Trying to explain this to DS was a little difficult and the way was back on. I took the RC car and put it out of his reach and told him he could have it [B]IF[/B] he tried one bite of his dinner. It was a new meal so I figured it's not fair to make him eat it if he doesn't like it. I think we fought about an hour. This includes the hitting, biting (the new skill he has learned) punching, kicking, screaming and throwing. Each time I would pick him up, take him to his bed lay him down, pin him down if needed and explain to him that he needed to calm down and then he could come out. That didn't go so well for awhile but after time he would calm down and come out. He tried to throw his food at me once, that didn't go as he planned, he went back to his bed, me carrying him like I do the baby (other then holding his hands so I didn't get hit in the face). In the end he came out, took a bite of his food then asked for his car, which I gave him, it was the deal we had made. He didn't eat anymore. I left his plate on the table in hopes he might change his mind. An hour later he wanted some chocolate milk, I refused because he had not really tried his dinner, so he picked up a few pieces and stuck it in his mouth. So he got some chocolate milk. Then off to his car again... It was a nice time after that till bed time rolled around and we fought about that a little. Normally he is allowed to take a new toy to bed. I don't mind as my goal is to get him to lay quietly on his bed. New car in hand he climbed into bed. I don't even think it was 5 mins later he was out of bed, naked and playing on the floor. This happened a few times and finally I told him, "New car needs to go nite nite so it can recharge or it wont work anymore." He didn't fight much as I took it out of the room and nothing was heard about it after. I expected a war, I got none. Maybe 15 mins after that he was sleeping. I am thanking my lucky stars he has been so good but I'm wondering if it's ADHD he might have or if there is anything wrong with him at all? I'm just so confused, is he a typical child just trying to find his voice and place in the world? We have one of those vinyl mattress cases for his mattress. He sleeps on the bottom bunk of a bunk bed. I do have an older son that comes into town during the summer. He has not been here in a few weeks. I also wonder you say your son doesn't like his face wet. DS will stick his face in the water but freaks if I pour it over his head, I try laying him back but he fights and I don't want to scare him. Any suggestions? Thank you all again, you at least have a concept of what I might be dealing with and it is good to read, get ideas and in some cases leave stories that you all can gather something from. Sometimes I feel like I am just going insane. In my world no one seems to see anything of what I go through. At least some of you might have been here where I am now. [/QUOTE]
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