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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 375683" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If the doctor says he's too young, go find another doctor. difficult child 3 was diagnosed just on 3 years old, and it was obvious. When I look back, I can see the signs of autism in difficult child 3 from a week old. But back then, it could have simply been a kid making exceptional eye contact with the movement of leaves in the trees, except that it was the flicker of light that had the most effect and he really would stay focussed on the trees for as long as we were near them. I've never seen a baby so young hold his attention on something for so long. If I wanted to settle difficult child 3 down, I would walk outside with him, to the trees. Instant peace while the baby stared at the leaves in the trees. From the first day home from hospital, 7 days old.</p><p></p><p>Despite this, and the indication that you would think it would mean he is "very autistic" - difficult child 3 is amazingly high functioning and has a lot of potential. Increasingly, he is a deep thinker able to discuss some very abstract concepts, two years ago I would have said he would never be able to. As time goes by, difficult child 3 keeps breaking through the glass ceiling.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child sounds very frustrated and this will mean he has a short fuse and likely to rage. So can you think of ways to help him better express his frustration and perhaps better ways to help him learn that you are there to help him, not hinder him? Something that worked for us, is having as much stimulation as possible, available for him. Boredom was always a disaster, and easy child, easy child 2/difficult child 2 and difficult child 3 especially, have needed to be swamped with constant mental stimulation. When easy child started school, her teacher found that she had to keep pushing more work onto her, at a higher and higher level, because if easy child began to get bored she would rapidly become disruptive. The teacher had to keep plenty of work at hand and be ready the instant easy child finished the previous exercises.</p><p></p><p>At home, try to involve difficult child in what you are doing. If you're in the garden, set difficult child up with a small garden area that he can work, plant seeds, make mud pies or whatever he wants to do. In the kitchen, get him to make things too. My mother used to make scones and would let me play with leftover scone dough which I would shape into a mini loaf or a shape, and then my mother would bake it. I make pasta and often would get the kids to crank the handle of the pasta machine. If I'm making pasta for a number of people, I weigh the kneaded pasta dough and allow about 100 g per person. Each person can then choose what width noodles they want, so I roll out each 100 g batch individually and cut each individually. I boil it individually because when it's really fresh it only takes 2 minutes at most to cook, then I can serve it individually. The kids love to help make pasta.</p><p></p><p>Other things you can do with home-made pasta, is colour it. Finely chopped herbs make it speckled green; tomato paste makes it orange. Beetroot makes it red. When you cook with kids, you yourself can take the time to play and try different things. The kids learn that "what if...?" is OK in cooking too because sometimes you can make some delicious discoveries. Even at 2 years old, there are things they can learn. And babies are too young! Got to be a big kid for this...</p><p></p><p>Another thing you can do (it's a bit girlie, but I did this with difficult child 1 as well) is teach him how to shred the dried lavender flowers and fill a lavender bag. I used other fragrant plants too. Lemon verbena is wonderful, it was difficult child 1's favourite. We used to pick it and put the fresh leaves inside difficult child 1's pillow case. Even cut fresh, lemon verbena does not go mildewed or mouldy. Or you can use eucalyptus leaves. If a child has sensory issues, smell can be wonderful to explore, especially if you give the child some control over what fragrant plant he gets to put in his bag. Use those cheap organza bags with a drawstring, you can buy them cheap in craft stores. Or if you have scraps of light fabric, make some bags yourself. Stitch on three sides, tie off on the fourth once the bag is filled.</p><p></p><p>Keep your child busy and stimulated. Whatever child you have when he wakes, can be changed through the day. </p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 375683, member: 1991"] If the doctor says he's too young, go find another doctor. difficult child 3 was diagnosed just on 3 years old, and it was obvious. When I look back, I can see the signs of autism in difficult child 3 from a week old. But back then, it could have simply been a kid making exceptional eye contact with the movement of leaves in the trees, except that it was the flicker of light that had the most effect and he really would stay focussed on the trees for as long as we were near them. I've never seen a baby so young hold his attention on something for so long. If I wanted to settle difficult child 3 down, I would walk outside with him, to the trees. Instant peace while the baby stared at the leaves in the trees. From the first day home from hospital, 7 days old. Despite this, and the indication that you would think it would mean he is "very autistic" - difficult child 3 is amazingly high functioning and has a lot of potential. Increasingly, he is a deep thinker able to discuss some very abstract concepts, two years ago I would have said he would never be able to. As time goes by, difficult child 3 keeps breaking through the glass ceiling. Your difficult child sounds very frustrated and this will mean he has a short fuse and likely to rage. So can you think of ways to help him better express his frustration and perhaps better ways to help him learn that you are there to help him, not hinder him? Something that worked for us, is having as much stimulation as possible, available for him. Boredom was always a disaster, and easy child, easy child 2/difficult child 2 and difficult child 3 especially, have needed to be swamped with constant mental stimulation. When easy child started school, her teacher found that she had to keep pushing more work onto her, at a higher and higher level, because if easy child began to get bored she would rapidly become disruptive. The teacher had to keep plenty of work at hand and be ready the instant easy child finished the previous exercises. At home, try to involve difficult child in what you are doing. If you're in the garden, set difficult child up with a small garden area that he can work, plant seeds, make mud pies or whatever he wants to do. In the kitchen, get him to make things too. My mother used to make scones and would let me play with leftover scone dough which I would shape into a mini loaf or a shape, and then my mother would bake it. I make pasta and often would get the kids to crank the handle of the pasta machine. If I'm making pasta for a number of people, I weigh the kneaded pasta dough and allow about 100 g per person. Each person can then choose what width noodles they want, so I roll out each 100 g batch individually and cut each individually. I boil it individually because when it's really fresh it only takes 2 minutes at most to cook, then I can serve it individually. The kids love to help make pasta. Other things you can do with home-made pasta, is colour it. Finely chopped herbs make it speckled green; tomato paste makes it orange. Beetroot makes it red. When you cook with kids, you yourself can take the time to play and try different things. The kids learn that "what if...?" is OK in cooking too because sometimes you can make some delicious discoveries. Even at 2 years old, there are things they can learn. And babies are too young! Got to be a big kid for this... Another thing you can do (it's a bit girlie, but I did this with difficult child 1 as well) is teach him how to shred the dried lavender flowers and fill a lavender bag. I used other fragrant plants too. Lemon verbena is wonderful, it was difficult child 1's favourite. We used to pick it and put the fresh leaves inside difficult child 1's pillow case. Even cut fresh, lemon verbena does not go mildewed or mouldy. Or you can use eucalyptus leaves. If a child has sensory issues, smell can be wonderful to explore, especially if you give the child some control over what fragrant plant he gets to put in his bag. Use those cheap organza bags with a drawstring, you can buy them cheap in craft stores. Or if you have scraps of light fabric, make some bags yourself. Stitch on three sides, tie off on the fourth once the bag is filled. Keep your child busy and stimulated. Whatever child you have when he wakes, can be changed through the day. Marg [/QUOTE]
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