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<blockquote data-quote="Tearna" data-source="post: 377520"><p>@ SRL, </p><p> The pediatric doctor was unsure of the local abilities for children, such as a pediatric psychologist or psychiatrist. Fortunately my insurance company suggested something closer than Pittsburgh which is about a 3 hour drive one way for me. Not that I mind it at all I would go through Iceland and the jungles to get my kids taken care of. I'm sure many of us feel the same way. </p><p> Additionally I have really been sinking my teeth into the information provided on Dr. Ross Greene's website. <a href="http://www.livesinthebalance.org/" target="_blank">http://www.livesinthebalance.org/</a> Although the website primarily deals with older children I have been attempting to implement some of the suggestions Dr. Greene suggests. Also I have been paying particular attention to what causes the outbursts from DS2.75. Commonly it is when we attempt to impose our will upon him. It doesn't matter what the reason is that we are imposing our will, only that we are stopping him from doing something or making him do something we want. So we have tried different strategies to curb or at least control the explosions that result. Here are some of the things we have found that work. </p><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">A later bed time (we moved it from 8 pm to 9 pm, and hour later then the baby)</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">negotiations, DS2.75 gets to negotiate if he doesn't like something (such as whats on TV, whats for dinner and if he brushes his teeth before the bath or after)</li> </ul> <p style="text-align: left"></p> <ul style="text-align: left"> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Distraction- no more yelling (this only gets yelling from him) No more threats (he doesn't seem to understand the consequences when we try to impose them) Best of all No more getting sent to his room (where he will throw a larger temper tantrum which usually results in him getting hurt or him throwing toys out of the room which normally harm me)</li> </ul> <p style="text-align: left"> We are still working on the hair washing thing. He freaks out at even the slightest bit of water touching his back or neck, he wont sit in the tub and baths, although he likes them turn into battles when I try to bathe him. We are trying to work on that. </p> <p style="text-align: left"> Potty training, I really think he is ready he stay dry for hours at a time, asks to use the potty *(only when its time for bed)* and seems generally interested in things when he is wet. Sometimes he tells me that he has gone and wants to be changed but not often. When I do try to change him we are in a battle because he does not want to stand up which makes it harder to get his "undies" off him or to put on clean ones. </p> <p style="text-align: left"> Glasses, recently he was prescribed glasses, now the trick it getting him to keep them on. The doctor suggested cables (extended "arms" that wrap under the ear so the don't fall off as easy). He would have had those broken by the time I got home from picking them up. Instead we went with a different frame which is make of a rubber/plastic material. so far he has thrown them, stepped on them and even bent them in half, and the frames have returned to their original shape. Now I need to figure out how out how to keep them on his face. Any suggestions? </p> <p style="text-align: left"> Well that's about it for now. I promise to keep you posted and keep a lookout for responses. So happy that I found this site because I sometimes feel so overwhelmed that I feel like I'm living a life that should not be happening. It helps to know that there are others out there who understand and have been where I am now. I'm sure many of you have felt how I feel right ?</p> <p style="text-align: left"></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tearna, post: 377520"] @ SRL, The pediatric doctor was unsure of the local abilities for children, such as a pediatric psychologist or psychiatrist. Fortunately my insurance company suggested something closer than Pittsburgh which is about a 3 hour drive one way for me. Not that I mind it at all I would go through Iceland and the jungles to get my kids taken care of. I'm sure many of us feel the same way. Additionally I have really been sinking my teeth into the information provided on Dr. Ross Greene's website. [url]http://www.livesinthebalance.org/[/url] Although the website primarily deals with older children I have been attempting to implement some of the suggestions Dr. Greene suggests. Also I have been paying particular attention to what causes the outbursts from DS2.75. Commonly it is when we attempt to impose our will upon him. It doesn't matter what the reason is that we are imposing our will, only that we are stopping him from doing something or making him do something we want. So we have tried different strategies to curb or at least control the explosions that result. Here are some of the things we have found that work. [LIST] [*]A later bed time (we moved it from 8 pm to 9 pm, and hour later then the baby) [*]negotiations, DS2.75 gets to negotiate if he doesn't like something (such as whats on TV, whats for dinner and if he brushes his teeth before the bath or after) [/LIST] [LEFT] [LIST] [*]Distraction- no more yelling (this only gets yelling from him) No more threats (he doesn't seem to understand the consequences when we try to impose them) Best of all No more getting sent to his room (where he will throw a larger temper tantrum which usually results in him getting hurt or him throwing toys out of the room which normally harm me) [/LIST] We are still working on the hair washing thing. He freaks out at even the slightest bit of water touching his back or neck, he wont sit in the tub and baths, although he likes them turn into battles when I try to bathe him. We are trying to work on that. Potty training, I really think he is ready he stay dry for hours at a time, asks to use the potty *(only when its time for bed)* and seems generally interested in things when he is wet. Sometimes he tells me that he has gone and wants to be changed but not often. When I do try to change him we are in a battle because he does not want to stand up which makes it harder to get his "undies" off him or to put on clean ones. Glasses, recently he was prescribed glasses, now the trick it getting him to keep them on. The doctor suggested cables (extended "arms" that wrap under the ear so the don't fall off as easy). He would have had those broken by the time I got home from picking them up. Instead we went with a different frame which is make of a rubber/plastic material. so far he has thrown them, stepped on them and even bent them in half, and the frames have returned to their original shape. Now I need to figure out how out how to keep them on his face. Any suggestions? Well that's about it for now. I promise to keep you posted and keep a lookout for responses. So happy that I found this site because I sometimes feel so overwhelmed that I feel like I'm living a life that should not be happening. It helps to know that there are others out there who understand and have been where I am now. I'm sure many of you have felt how I feel right ? [/LEFT] [/QUOTE]
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