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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 513746" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome. I am glad you found us. I know how it feels to feel alone, worried and frightened. You are NOT alone. We are here for you. </p><p></p><p>This site has been a huge help to me. Just when I needed it. Keep writing, keep venting, you will get the kind of support from the parents here that you cannot find anywhere else. </p><p></p><p>I understand all of your feelings, I imagine we could all say that. There are steps along the way, First, you have done the most important, reached out for help, in the right place, at the right time. Follow your instincts and find an alanon meeting or a CoDa meeting, or any meeting where you feel good and get the kind of support you need. You may need to shop around for the right one. But, we all need support of some kind, to learn the tools to get through this. </p><p></p><p>Like all of us, you have to negotiate yourself through a circuitous path which will feel like the opposite of what you believe a mother or a parent would likely do or think or say. You will need to learn all about detachment, even if in the beginning you hate that word, because it goes against your beliefs about motherhood. You will learn how to focus on yourself and take the focus off of your difficult child, so that you can feel healthy and whole and complete as you also learn how to set boundaries and navigate a whole new territory in parenting which is all about letting go. </p><p></p><p>You will likely have to let go of your son doing what you want him to do, he may have his own ideas of what is good for him, which may make you feel crazy and angry, but at 21, it is his life and what he does is going to turn out to be none of your business! And, I know that this all sounds pretty overwhelming,<em> and it is</em>, AND, most of us here have been on this road for a long, long time, and we circle around all of this pretty much all the time. </p><p></p><p>However, if you do it all, and commit to yourself, begin to detach, take care of yourself, get support....... in time, you WILL feel a little peace of mind. And that peace of mind will grow, little by little, until your life becomes manageable. You can do it. We are doing it. We can do it together. </p><p></p><p>Many hugs and blessings to you ENM. Keep coming back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 513746, member: 13542"] Welcome. I am glad you found us. I know how it feels to feel alone, worried and frightened. You are NOT alone. We are here for you. This site has been a huge help to me. Just when I needed it. Keep writing, keep venting, you will get the kind of support from the parents here that you cannot find anywhere else. I understand all of your feelings, I imagine we could all say that. There are steps along the way, First, you have done the most important, reached out for help, in the right place, at the right time. Follow your instincts and find an alanon meeting or a CoDa meeting, or any meeting where you feel good and get the kind of support you need. You may need to shop around for the right one. But, we all need support of some kind, to learn the tools to get through this. Like all of us, you have to negotiate yourself through a circuitous path which will feel like the opposite of what you believe a mother or a parent would likely do or think or say. You will need to learn all about detachment, even if in the beginning you hate that word, because it goes against your beliefs about motherhood. You will learn how to focus on yourself and take the focus off of your difficult child, so that you can feel healthy and whole and complete as you also learn how to set boundaries and navigate a whole new territory in parenting which is all about letting go. You will likely have to let go of your son doing what you want him to do, he may have his own ideas of what is good for him, which may make you feel crazy and angry, but at 21, it is his life and what he does is going to turn out to be none of your business! And, I know that this all sounds pretty overwhelming,[I] and it is[/I], AND, most of us here have been on this road for a long, long time, and we circle around all of this pretty much all the time. However, if you do it all, and commit to yourself, begin to detach, take care of yourself, get support....... in time, you WILL feel a little peace of mind. And that peace of mind will grow, little by little, until your life becomes manageable. You can do it. We are doing it. We can do it together. Many hugs and blessings to you ENM. Keep coming back. [/QUOTE]
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