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<blockquote data-quote="enablernomore" data-source="post: 513836" data-attributes="member: 14122"><p>I need your advice on setting rules about the drug use. As of right now he is not allowed to do drugs in our home, but we know he is doing them. He has a part-time job and is going to classes but we don't ever see him study so if he passes it will be a miracle. I know he wants to move out on his own. I know that he believes smoking pot is not a big deal and that it is less harmless than alcohol. He tells me he will never do other drugs and that he doesn't see himself doing pot on a daily basis in the future but to let him be for right now. He thinks the medications that saved his life are now just chemicals being put into his system vs. smoking this natural herb. </p><p></p><p>So if he doesn't do as expected in school this semester, we mean business and will not pay for more. This whole thing gets complicated because of his mental illness. If he stays off his medications and continues to smoke pot, he will crash. When he crashes and if he becomes suicidal I can't kick him out of my house. If he were not suicidal that is another thing. Right now he works, but if he gets really sick again and loses his job - all by his own doing of going off his medications - he will come to us to want money for gas, etc. Before when he was sick we gave him just about anything he wanted because he was so very bad and we were so very scared and he was just 17. Now if we go through this a second time knowing what we know, I would be afraid to give him any cash.</p><p></p><p>He has already been in trouble with the law once. He was caught in possession of cannibas and had to pay a $350 fine, which he paid 100% himself. We would not even loan him the money. Now he's been in an accident and needs to go to court on 3/15 to ask for supervision and to arrange a way to work off the fine for the county, which he has done before.</p><p></p><p>If he doesn't get sick and we can manage to keep him on medications but he continues to smoke pot, do we kick him out for that?</p><p></p><p>i guess its too early to know how this is all going to play out. I am just truly thankful for all of you being here for me. I am just confused, overwhelmed, and realize all over the place in these posts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="enablernomore, post: 513836, member: 14122"] I need your advice on setting rules about the drug use. As of right now he is not allowed to do drugs in our home, but we know he is doing them. He has a part-time job and is going to classes but we don't ever see him study so if he passes it will be a miracle. I know he wants to move out on his own. I know that he believes smoking pot is not a big deal and that it is less harmless than alcohol. He tells me he will never do other drugs and that he doesn't see himself doing pot on a daily basis in the future but to let him be for right now. He thinks the medications that saved his life are now just chemicals being put into his system vs. smoking this natural herb. So if he doesn't do as expected in school this semester, we mean business and will not pay for more. This whole thing gets complicated because of his mental illness. If he stays off his medications and continues to smoke pot, he will crash. When he crashes and if he becomes suicidal I can't kick him out of my house. If he were not suicidal that is another thing. Right now he works, but if he gets really sick again and loses his job - all by his own doing of going off his medications - he will come to us to want money for gas, etc. Before when he was sick we gave him just about anything he wanted because he was so very bad and we were so very scared and he was just 17. Now if we go through this a second time knowing what we know, I would be afraid to give him any cash. He has already been in trouble with the law once. He was caught in possession of cannibas and had to pay a $350 fine, which he paid 100% himself. We would not even loan him the money. Now he's been in an accident and needs to go to court on 3/15 to ask for supervision and to arrange a way to work off the fine for the county, which he has done before. If he doesn't get sick and we can manage to keep him on medications but he continues to smoke pot, do we kick him out for that? i guess its too early to know how this is all going to play out. I am just truly thankful for all of you being here for me. I am just confused, overwhelmed, and realize all over the place in these posts. [/QUOTE]
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