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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 87476" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I think many of us have in one way or another. You truly aren't alone. We understand your pain. You haven't failed. You've done everything you could possibly do for your son. He's at an age where he thinks he knows what is best for him. Sometimes it is hard to rein our older teens in. Other times, it is downright impossible.</p><p></p><p>I hate to say this, but my first thought was drugs, especially since the changes are so drastic and so recent. The skateboard culture is one that romances drugs. So, the first thing I would recommend is start giving random drug tests. If they are positive, you and your husband will have to decide what the next steps are. There are many here that can help you with that. They've been through it.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes having your child in the system is the best thing that can happen. It can open up a wealth of services that most of us could never afford. It can also be the worst thing that ever happens. A lot depends on your juvenile justice system. </p><p></p><p>You might want to make an appointment with your local police department and find out what their policies are if your son runs away or is violent. Most have different policies for different behaviors. No matter what, you need to let your son know that violence is not acceptable and you will take whatever actions you deem appropriate to have it stopped. If that means calling the police, then call them. If that means taking his skateboard(s) and either locking them up or getting rid of them, then do it. Do whatever you need to do to stop the violence before it escalates.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, many hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 87476, member: 3626"] I think many of us have in one way or another. You truly aren't alone. We understand your pain. You haven't failed. You've done everything you could possibly do for your son. He's at an age where he thinks he knows what is best for him. Sometimes it is hard to rein our older teens in. Other times, it is downright impossible. I hate to say this, but my first thought was drugs, especially since the changes are so drastic and so recent. The skateboard culture is one that romances drugs. So, the first thing I would recommend is start giving random drug tests. If they are positive, you and your husband will have to decide what the next steps are. There are many here that can help you with that. They've been through it. Sometimes having your child in the system is the best thing that can happen. It can open up a wealth of services that most of us could never afford. It can also be the worst thing that ever happens. A lot depends on your juvenile justice system. You might want to make an appointment with your local police department and find out what their policies are if your son runs away or is violent. Most have different policies for different behaviors. No matter what, you need to let your son know that violence is not acceptable and you will take whatever actions you deem appropriate to have it stopped. If that means calling the police, then call them. If that means taking his skateboard(s) and either locking them up or getting rid of them, then do it. Do whatever you need to do to stop the violence before it escalates. In the meantime, many hugs. [/QUOTE]
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