Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
New (with issues)
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="alanalouise" data-source="post: 408757" data-attributes="member: 11225"><p>Hello All, </p><p> </p><p>I am new here. Been pretty down in the dumps with my 6yo son. Kindergarten has not been going well. Started out with issues in class not listening and following directions. About 2 weeks into school I had a talk with his teacher about his behavior in class as well as at recess (pushing/shoving/kicking). So we began to get daily reports on his behavior. We reinforced this at home as well. We had consequences for rough days and praise and rewards for good days. It took a while but we got it taken care of after about 2 months. He was able to stop with the reports and all was well. Then after Christmas we got more info from the teacher that his old behaviors were back - reports again. We are doing the same things we did before with no luck. The good news this time is that classroom time is going great but it's at social times that we are having issues. He will shove at recess and tackle. Yesterday even kicking a boy that he does not even know in the privates in the bathroom. He ended up with a trip to the Principal. We have had him in Tae Kwon Do in an attemp to learn some discipline and self control and have been doing it since the beginning of the school year with no luck or change. We have a happy home. When husband and I argue it's never ugly or disrespectiful. There is no violence in our home either. We are also very careful about what our kids watch on TV - no guns/violence/fighting/ etc.... and any computer or video games are also age appropriate and either educational or violence free (for instance, he can play Mario Kart). We have the school guidance counselor observing him and we will have a meeting with husband, teacher and counselor soon. I am super frustrated about what to do. I feel like I have done something wrong along the way here. Why aren't we able to get this under control? What are we doing wrong or missing here? Is there more to it? He is GREAT at his afterschool program (he is there 3 days a week - the days that I work). He has never been violent or aggressive (aside from a 2 month span of time when he was 1 and was biting). He has always been a kid who does not like change and that was what I thought was up when Kindergarten started - just not used to things yet but this can't be lasting this long. Especially when he already solved all these things once before. Have asked him lots of questions about school and if someone there is being mean to him or if he is scared of something and he claims everything is perfrect. I am at a loss and feeling like a complete failure as a mother. He has lost everything here at home, toys, games, etc... and pretty much comes home, does any homework he has then has work to do. Fold clothes, help clean, etc... and has to go to bed early. I feel bad that my time with my son is so negative because of this but I can't ignore what he did at school and act like nothing happened. The rare day that is great we celebrate and congradulate him and praise him give him a chance to watch a cartoon, play a game as a family, etc.... but those things don't seem to matter. </p><p> </p><p>Oh, we are also close to having his tonsils out as well.... he has huge ones and think it may be affecting his sleep. Another reason he goes to bed early. This is so sad to me as I love my son with every cell in my body. To know that he is hurting kids and being a distraction at school is so embarrassing and appalling to me. I miss those days when he'd come home with great news and being so excited. Any ideas.... </p><p> </p><p>Thanks so much for being here, I need to vent</p><p> </p><p>alanalouise</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="alanalouise, post: 408757, member: 11225"] Hello All, I am new here. Been pretty down in the dumps with my 6yo son. Kindergarten has not been going well. Started out with issues in class not listening and following directions. About 2 weeks into school I had a talk with his teacher about his behavior in class as well as at recess (pushing/shoving/kicking). So we began to get daily reports on his behavior. We reinforced this at home as well. We had consequences for rough days and praise and rewards for good days. It took a while but we got it taken care of after about 2 months. He was able to stop with the reports and all was well. Then after Christmas we got more info from the teacher that his old behaviors were back - reports again. We are doing the same things we did before with no luck. The good news this time is that classroom time is going great but it's at social times that we are having issues. He will shove at recess and tackle. Yesterday even kicking a boy that he does not even know in the privates in the bathroom. He ended up with a trip to the Principal. We have had him in Tae Kwon Do in an attemp to learn some discipline and self control and have been doing it since the beginning of the school year with no luck or change. We have a happy home. When husband and I argue it's never ugly or disrespectiful. There is no violence in our home either. We are also very careful about what our kids watch on TV - no guns/violence/fighting/ etc.... and any computer or video games are also age appropriate and either educational or violence free (for instance, he can play Mario Kart). We have the school guidance counselor observing him and we will have a meeting with husband, teacher and counselor soon. I am super frustrated about what to do. I feel like I have done something wrong along the way here. Why aren't we able to get this under control? What are we doing wrong or missing here? Is there more to it? He is GREAT at his afterschool program (he is there 3 days a week - the days that I work). He has never been violent or aggressive (aside from a 2 month span of time when he was 1 and was biting). He has always been a kid who does not like change and that was what I thought was up when Kindergarten started - just not used to things yet but this can't be lasting this long. Especially when he already solved all these things once before. Have asked him lots of questions about school and if someone there is being mean to him or if he is scared of something and he claims everything is perfrect. I am at a loss and feeling like a complete failure as a mother. He has lost everything here at home, toys, games, etc... and pretty much comes home, does any homework he has then has work to do. Fold clothes, help clean, etc... and has to go to bed early. I feel bad that my time with my son is so negative because of this but I can't ignore what he did at school and act like nothing happened. The rare day that is great we celebrate and congradulate him and praise him give him a chance to watch a cartoon, play a game as a family, etc.... but those things don't seem to matter. Oh, we are also close to having his tonsils out as well.... he has huge ones and think it may be affecting his sleep. Another reason he goes to bed early. This is so sad to me as I love my son with every cell in my body. To know that he is hurting kids and being a distraction at school is so embarrassing and appalling to me. I miss those days when he'd come home with great news and being so excited. Any ideas.... Thanks so much for being here, I need to vent alanalouise [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
New (with issues)
Top