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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 408967" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I think, were I you, I would wait for the results of his classroom observation meeting. It sounds as if the school/teacher are supportive, and that's a huge plus! They may have some suggestions, the counselor may have seen some things that may be a good insight into his behavior.</p><p></p><p>In regards to punishment - one of the rules that most of us follow around here is consequences at school for school behavior and consequences at home for home behavior. Is your son given consequences (i.e., recess time taken away, etc.) when he acts out at school? If so, then he has been punished already. Having said that, the only time I punished at home was for severe infractions which were always using any part of his body on another person (hitting, pushing, kicking, etc.). When that occurred, everything with an on switch (gameboy, tv, etc.) was taken away for a time commensurate with the infraction. That way he knew those were the huge "no-no's". I didn't, and don't, expect perfection. I understood his challenges and knew he had to try that much harder than his classmates to hold it together. As he got older, he became aware of it as well and was able to gain a little more control.</p><p></p><p>So, at this point, I think I would listen to the results of the observations and then go from there. You might want to begin to think back to developmental milestone, family histories or emotional, behavioral, or mental issues, etc. Begin to make your son comfortable talking with you about these incidents. "Why did you kick so and so?" "How did it make you feel?" "Did you feel bad after you did it?" "What do you think you could have done instead?" Dialogue can work if your son feels comfortable. I found that bedtime was a good time to discuss these things with my son. He was relaxed and much farther removed from the incident so the anger/frustration wasn't fresh. He was more apt to share rather than my "attacking" him right after school when he was still "wound up".</p><p></p><p>Glad you found the site!</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 408967, member: 805"] I think, were I you, I would wait for the results of his classroom observation meeting. It sounds as if the school/teacher are supportive, and that's a huge plus! They may have some suggestions, the counselor may have seen some things that may be a good insight into his behavior. In regards to punishment - one of the rules that most of us follow around here is consequences at school for school behavior and consequences at home for home behavior. Is your son given consequences (i.e., recess time taken away, etc.) when he acts out at school? If so, then he has been punished already. Having said that, the only time I punished at home was for severe infractions which were always using any part of his body on another person (hitting, pushing, kicking, etc.). When that occurred, everything with an on switch (gameboy, tv, etc.) was taken away for a time commensurate with the infraction. That way he knew those were the huge "no-no's". I didn't, and don't, expect perfection. I understood his challenges and knew he had to try that much harder than his classmates to hold it together. As he got older, he became aware of it as well and was able to gain a little more control. So, at this point, I think I would listen to the results of the observations and then go from there. You might want to begin to think back to developmental milestone, family histories or emotional, behavioral, or mental issues, etc. Begin to make your son comfortable talking with you about these incidents. "Why did you kick so and so?" "How did it make you feel?" "Did you feel bad after you did it?" "What do you think you could have done instead?" Dialogue can work if your son feels comfortable. I found that bedtime was a good time to discuss these things with my son. He was relaxed and much farther removed from the incident so the anger/frustration wasn't fresh. He was more apt to share rather than my "attacking" him right after school when he was still "wound up". Glad you found the site! Sharon [/QUOTE]
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