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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 409878" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A thought on the tai kwon do - we enrolled difficult child 1 in karate class, because we thought it would be good for him. teach him discipline, give him confidence, help him learn self-control. The class was mixed adult and child class, run by a young man who did not live in the village. I met with the teacher, talked to him about difficult child 1 (diagnosis of ADHD at the time, I said he would need support and needed instructions kept simple and short. The teacher listened, seemed to take it all on board, said he would help him along. Then there was this secrecy thing - difficult child 1 said that karate was not supposed to be talked about outside class, what happened in class was secret, like a secret society. He was not allowed to tell us even how it went. I didn't feel comfortable with this. Another older boy from our church and a man from our church were also in the class. The older boy was enjoying it and doing well. But the man came to us and told us we should pull difficult child 1 out, the teacher was picking on him badly and frankly, not teaching him anything. He was punishing difficult child 1 for not being able to follow complex instructions. Punishment was constant push-ups and being excluded from the class - instead of doing the stuff the others were doing, difficult child 1 was off to the side to "gimme 20". For the whole lesson.</p><p></p><p>We had noticed a behaviour change in difficult child 1 but never got the chance to have it out with the teacher and pull difficult child 1 from the class - a few days after our adult friend told us of this, the teacher postponed the next lesson on the grounds of poor health, then never came back. Word was, he had a breakdown of sorts. So the teacher was not the most stable individual.</p><p></p><p>We checked out the teacher, checked his credentials, asked other students and got glowing reports. But after the breakdown issue, we went back and talked to people and found they hadn't really known him as well as they said they did. We felt conned.</p><p></p><p>It's tricky sometimes. But since then - any martial arts course that has ANY secrecy as a component, is off our list. Any teacher trying that one on with me again, gets an earful. It seems difficult child 1 was being warned to not complain to mummy, he was being actively "toughened up" and the secrecy angle was being used to hide what was really going on.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 409878, member: 1991"] A thought on the tai kwon do - we enrolled difficult child 1 in karate class, because we thought it would be good for him. teach him discipline, give him confidence, help him learn self-control. The class was mixed adult and child class, run by a young man who did not live in the village. I met with the teacher, talked to him about difficult child 1 (diagnosis of ADHD at the time, I said he would need support and needed instructions kept simple and short. The teacher listened, seemed to take it all on board, said he would help him along. Then there was this secrecy thing - difficult child 1 said that karate was not supposed to be talked about outside class, what happened in class was secret, like a secret society. He was not allowed to tell us even how it went. I didn't feel comfortable with this. Another older boy from our church and a man from our church were also in the class. The older boy was enjoying it and doing well. But the man came to us and told us we should pull difficult child 1 out, the teacher was picking on him badly and frankly, not teaching him anything. He was punishing difficult child 1 for not being able to follow complex instructions. Punishment was constant push-ups and being excluded from the class - instead of doing the stuff the others were doing, difficult child 1 was off to the side to "gimme 20". For the whole lesson. We had noticed a behaviour change in difficult child 1 but never got the chance to have it out with the teacher and pull difficult child 1 from the class - a few days after our adult friend told us of this, the teacher postponed the next lesson on the grounds of poor health, then never came back. Word was, he had a breakdown of sorts. So the teacher was not the most stable individual. We checked out the teacher, checked his credentials, asked other students and got glowing reports. But after the breakdown issue, we went back and talked to people and found they hadn't really known him as well as they said they did. We felt conned. It's tricky sometimes. But since then - any martial arts course that has ANY secrecy as a component, is off our list. Any teacher trying that one on with me again, gets an earful. It seems difficult child 1 was being warned to not complain to mummy, he was being actively "toughened up" and the secrecy angle was being used to hide what was really going on. Marg [/QUOTE]
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