Hi Nice to meet you all. I've been lurking for weeks now reading and re-reading your posts. I am a divorced mom of 2 children my easy child is 8 and my difficult child is 6. For years i have been trying to figure out what was wrong. My family kept telling me it was normal. ALL little boys try to smother cats. all little boys get up at 4 am to steal food and put steak knives in a microwave, ALL little boys are violent and the problem was me. I need to teach him empathy, i need to beat him with a belt I need to ignore him more ect. he has been in counseling for almost 4 years now. my family raised me so i know they are umm shall we say odd? when my mom told me not to take him to the dr i speed dialed said dr. My difficult child was born with sagital synostosis and was operated on last year. i had originally hoped that would "cure" the behavior issues. it did not. I found a wonderful family dr that actually took an hour and a half and listened to me and the issues we were having. he diagnosed difficult child as ADHD and ODD. he started us on daytranna patches. at this time things are fairly calm for life with a difficult child but i wanted to introduce my family and thank all of you. you have no idea (well you might) how comforting it was to read posts from people who have been there and understand.